When u go back to Pakistan, how do your relatives treat u?

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Do they treat u as equal, or put u on a pedestal, or look down on u?

Or do they try to take advantage of u, or do u take advantage of them?

Are they genuinely good natured? What about guppies based in Paks, how do u c your relatives when they visit, do u think they r proud, normal or humble?

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Re: When u go back to Pakistan, how do your relatives treat u?

they're awesome, very loving, and treat us very well. at least on my moms side.

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They aaare not soh well with myself. cousins aaare always ohn about one's height one is the tallest filly in the whole family and well everyone is kind of scaaared of myself and they take myself out ohn shopping trips and empty one's wallet! Absolutely top hole - I have to say.

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They expect gifts. Lots and lots of gifts....lots......and lots......and lots...
Somehow they think money grows on trees in America.

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Empty one's pockets, expect gifts, money grows on trees... All sound familiar.

However, some of my mums side are very generous and helpful and expect nothing in return, dont complain if no gifts etc. At least there r some who r good.

Others, they criticise everything and anything about u, i wonder why?

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*Rupeay halwah forget one's relatives even one's youngah bruhthah is fancy this if he fancies something of myself and one dane't giz it then he sulks and complains about myself to Mum and daddy and lies that one has hit him and all that. One has divine daaarling cousins toohh but there aaare those whoh critisize myself alsoh but one has noh ideah why they doh that. Relatives aaare divine daaarling to you, if you, bring something for them if not then they aaare not that hospitable in one's opiniohn and experiance. *

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dont have many relativers left there but, yeah some relatives see you as a cash cow and try to milk u for as much as they can...

got an example, first time i went to pakistan few years ago i was introduced to a "cousin", i asked him if he could get me something and how much would it cost. He said 2000 rupees each. Later i found out that it cost only 200 rupees each.

I asked for my money back but never got it lol. It was his loss really because he lost a friend over it.

Others are so nice tho, always helping me out with local advice thats informative.

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put me on a pedestal.

It really bothers me though! like here is one example:

In the place I come from - theres this mountainous place and they calll it "baba gomti wala" and like people go there and they have to climb up the huge mountain to get to the top before they can do anything! So everytime I go there, i'm like OMGOSH LETS GO! and the're like "no! you'll fall and break a leg"

and i'm like. I've gone rock climbing in australia, switzerland.. and i live in Hong Kong which is all mountains.. I've gone dirt biking sky diving and you STILL treat me like i can't do anything

it REALLY bothers me :( :( :( they think im some like princess ugh

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awwww :( that is bad... some of my relatives also treat me like that, the sad thing is they still think in pakistan that boys are superior and girls cant do anything or know anything but i am really sorry to say that they get shocked and amazed each and everytime.

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Re: When u go back to Pakistan, how do your relatives treat u?

Very loving, careful, caring. Often I'm treated like a princess and am really uncomfortable.

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rock climbing in pakistion probably not a good idea.... if u fall and hurt your self there is no helecopter rescue. And the people will think you MENTAL anyway.

cElEbrAtIons................
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Re: When u go back to Pakistan, how do your relatives treat u?

Very loving and caring. Often buy us presents of our own choice and cook what we ask for (we like fresh vegetables from there). Never ask for anythying at all whatsoever.

However there are a rare few who not only expect you to pay for their services but actually say it openly. That makes me very uncomfortable that someone actually brags about it. However whatever presents we do give them are fine with them.

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Aisha how tall are You?

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Re: When u go back to Pakistan, how do your relatives treat u?

I am sick and tired questions like the following when I go back:

  • Do you get discriminated against in America?
  • Which do you like better? living here or living in the U.S?
  • Do you feel home sick in the U.S?
  • Oh wow this is nice, you must have bought it really cheap on sale.
  • Oh just $500 dollars? Thats just like 500 ruppees for you though isn't it? I am like yeah right! It would be like 500 rupees if I made $200,000 a month like you make 200,000 rupees here per month.
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5 11 !!!!!!!!!!!

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oooh calm down aisha

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Your questions made me laugh, they r SOOOOO typical of those which i am asked too, and im from the uk, but to them the UK and America is the same thing!

When u go back to America do u miss us and want to come back??? Er, No, not really.

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haha its not rock climbing
its like walking up a rocky road on a mountain or somethin
its more liek hiking :D
and everyone in my pk fam has gone, cept me cause they think i cant handle it :D

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rupayhalwa..cool topic..well i sort of see a pattern forming in these answers rhere..my mom's side treats us more better and in a more 'natural' way than fathers side(my dad's nanke side that is)..what i mean by that is that they r way less jealous of us than our dads side..i would say they r not at all but sometimes i see it in teeny specks here n there..but over all theyr way more caring ..thoguh they do from inside expect gifts..but i dont know if its bcs we alwayz take them when we go..but they r also not without hope of one day coming abroad and mamu's son does ask my bor for money when they go by themselves..but we dont take offense as ew know there habits..

my dads side, espicalyy the relatives on dad's mom's side r soooo extremely jealous of us.they try to b nice but soemtimes they act WEIRD..like i can sense an inferiorty complex they have..they do not treat us real..either they put us on a pedestal(bcs i sene theat they want things..they think were really rich and htey tkeep talkign about hosues and cars with us..hinting at it mind u never directly) or their kidz ll drop u down to tell u what do u think of urself?..

its liek at the same time theyr telling us that they think of us as famliy and bcs of that blood relation they expect from us that w let them share in our wealth(im not saying we r but thats what they think of us)..but theyr also jealous of us that we have more htan htey do..its like this..either u share what u have with them or they mind it nd get pissed off ..and if u show them annoyance on this...tell them what htey r doing straight up..then they tell u off that what do u think u r? what d ou think u have?..but they dont see thrye undreaosnable expectations..!..FrUsTrAtInG..

my dad's dad side on the other hand r pretty cool..whther in UK or paksitna..whwether theyr ones who r rich or live in a village..no jealousy no WEIRD acting..very hospitable and genuinely caring and sincere ..

serioulsy now i know whos house ot go to and whose house ot not go to when i go to pak!..

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Overall okay… but what really disturbs me is that they always relate everything back to education, esp if you are a girl of marriageable age." You don’t know how to cut an onion vhat has your amreeka education taught you." ( I can cut onion by the way).

It amazes me to see my cousins go back accept a ton of free gifts/meals and have the relatives follow them around like paparazzi. I find that extremely uncomfortable and rude.