So my problem is that i have no idea when to shut up and when to say anything (obviously :pagli: )
There are so many times that I wish i could’ve just verbally b*tch slapped someone for being the rotten person they are or at the very least defended myself..but i stayed quiet.
Then there are times when i hate that I opened my big mouth.
I mean how the heck am I supposed to know when to say what?
The only time I don’t regret staying quiet is with my in laws and husband. Warna, with freinds and acquaintances, i wish I’d had the chance to respond to their stupidassedness when i had the chance.
honestly, i’m not very quick thinking, it always takes me a while to get things, including responding to someone but by that time it’s too late and the moment is gone and if I bring it up then I am the one who’s wrong.
Whats worst are those snakes.. who like to give their own “sob story” to get you to sympathize and share your own story til afterwards ur like..WTF JUST HAPPEND!
sara516,
it is better to stay quiet and walk away.
the other person, unless unduly violent, ought to be left.
why should you make yourself act lowly like the other person?
and when it is really a time when you should give that person a real dose of his/her own medicine, all you have to do is NOT act on impulse.
instead, catch that person off guard.
and still not say anything.
he/she will, hopefully get it that their behavior was rude and not acceptable.
If some intentionally try to abuse you(verbally), they will remember it or they will be happy about it(still remember it).
So
If you couldn't say any thing right away because you were in shock, no need to worry about it.
Pick any time when you are ready. Then say "what did you mean when you said that"
"No seriously , I really want to know"
"You just go around do those thing to ppl all day"
That kind of stuff.
Eventually, you recognize ppl you are not comfortable with. The moment they start talking in back of you head you will be preparing counter measures.
the problem with me is that i dont talk back a lot..and i know how to control my words..
but I roll my eyes a lot..and i try my best not to do tht..but if i am mad..my facial expression talks for me..and i need to learn how to control it.
i also try not to say anything bad. i try to keep my mouth shut most of the time becasue i don't want to be as low as the other person. i just try to listen and not say anything and then in the future i try to avoid having a conversation with that person. but most of the time people could tell from my facial expressions that i am mad. i think its better not to say anything so people should understand from your facial expressions that your mad. i am also trying not to make these angry expressions anymore.
^ ok so its not xactly when they say something rude/mean..but their actions..and its all little things that kinda pile up. I really wish some ppl would know how messed up and fake they are. Fake cows.
a homely discussion, should I leave the thread now 