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lol. i had another word in place of cow, but i guess cow it is.
I just get so mad jab yaad ata hai. :ASA:
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The quieter the better.
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omg i’m the same, i share ure frustration about this 
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this happens alot with a lot of people , maybe i'm one of those :D
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omg, i hate when people 'fakely' sympathize with you and in the heat of the moment, you blurt out so many things to them and just regret them later. it's like someone shoot me, why did i do that!!!???
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i got the same problem, aur bolnay kee wajah sey meiney apnay itney baray baray nuqsaan kiye hain key mat poocho
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it is all very simple..
smart remarks to ppl u are friends with is totally worth it..
same to your inlaws is never worth any thing.. cose this wont help in proving ur point.. and it will only make u look bad.. so instead ....smiling and taking things as a joke is the best bet..
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^ Yeah, i said before..that i stay quiet w/ in laws. I just don't have the nerve to say anything to their faces!
But when aunties or so-called "frends" say and do stupid stuff....i so wish i cud tell them off
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i'm the same but i've improved a lot after getting married....when in laws say something i show them i'm taking it as a joke but do try to tell them indirectly about my feelings....with friends, i'm still the same...I don't know how to be rude to anybody but I have realized how important it is to be assertive when the other person really pushes the limits. I think you have to have this skill in order to deal especially with desis! :D
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^ i thought you weren't married? i guess i misread your post in the other thread about things we want to do in our lives. doh.
i used to be really quiet and i'd take it all in and then i'd vent with best friends or parents, but honestly, its not worth the aggravation. now i'm polite but firm, i'm never rude or say anything insulting, but i always make it a point to say *some*thing, so the other person realises what they're saying is not cool with me. this has been an especially useful realisation with the inlaws.
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^ i thought you weren't married? i guess i misread your post in the other thread about things we want to do in our lives. doh.
I guess you misunderstood about my post in the other thread. I just wrote that it's kind of difficult to manage between studies and home but I really hope to finish my studies with good grades. :)
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ahhh... sorry about that! good luck with those studies! :)
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thank you..:)
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that is so like me sara, and i hate it!
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omg, i hate when people 'fakely' sympathize with you and in the heat of the moment, you blurt out so many things to them and just regret them later. it's like someone shoot me, why did i do that!!!???
and then they go around your back and tell other people :o ...
sara just avoid talking/socializing too much with people like that, thats what i try and do now. just say salam when you see them, no need for a heart-2-heart talk, they don't deserve our friendship!
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Do u sara I often have the same problem. I often do shut up sometimes, but sometimes I just cant stop myself.
But u know when I am nice to someone and there really bicthy I often have that 'I could have said...' moment