if you are staying at some relative’s place as a guest for good 10-15 days, and if you get up in the morning as per your routine and not as per the host routine, will that look bad?
i might need to travel to another city for work purpose and so will be staying at relative’s place for about 10 days. now this family are up and running very early in the morning like at fajr time. the younger ones go to schools and elder ones to their work. I on the other hand, have the work situation where i will need to go to office in the afternoon for just 3 hours.
this family have batmen and maids at home so i am not expected to help around with the little chores, so i am wondering if i don’t get up too early in the morning and get up like around 10 or 11, would that look bad??
my mom is saying that even if i have to sit idle i must get up as per their schedule otherwise it will not look nice. it is agianst the etiquette.
so what do you guys suggest here.?
Obviously they are going to serve you breakfast, lunch, dinner and no matter how many helpers they have, its kind of odd to expect being served food at odd times...if you know what I mean.
It depends on your comfort level with the family, on the first day you can probably get up early and join them for breakfast and then take it from there. Also if you have issues with being bound by hosts routine, check in a hotel.
You know for someone who seems so bothered by things women do differently, why must you make it your mission to point it out when the actual question/OP has nothing to do with how men or women do something?
Since you're travelling for work, I don't understand why you're not staying at a hotel (which should be paid for by the company).
But since you're staying with relatives anyway.....yes, it would be rude to sleep in late everyday. You wrote you don't have to go to the office until afternoon. So if I were, I would woke up in the morning...doesn't have to be like 5:00 a.m. but woke up early enough to eat breakfast with the family and say bye before they leave. Once they leave, go back to bed and sleep however long you want.
I was in a similar situation once and what I did was get up early for the first couple days, and then gauge if my relatives were ok with me sleeping in. They didn't have any issues so after that i went back to sleeping in till noon or whenever i wanted. I suppose it depends on how close you are to the relatives as well, like if i was staying with my khala i wouldn't even feel the need to do.
So typically Pakistani, this whole thread, making an issue out of a non-issue. If Pakistanis don't find fault in every little teeny tiny thing, well they wouldn't be Pakistanis, would they? Har cheez mein ungla karna aur keeDa nikaalna.
The OP appears to be in Pakistan. I suggest that you tell the relatives your schedule and say they need not worry about your breakfast etch nd that you will fix t for yourself. Don't know if the hosts will actually appreciate having a guest out of their hair in the busy morning time. You would get to eat dinner with them anyways. In Pakistan it's perfectly acceptable to sleep in till 10-12 as everyone goes to bed late. Going to bed at 11 is considered early.
So typically Pakistani, this whole thread, making an issue out of a non-issue. If Pakistanis don't find fault in every little teeny tiny thing, well they wouldn't be Pakistanis, would they? Har cheez mein ungla karna aur keeDa nikaalna.
Hi keeDa, how are you. now you can crawl back to your wilayat. and give up excessive use of desi pakistani profanities that you spew in order to look cool but which make you look even more retarded.
Listen to your mum and stay with them. Looks better for girls to be in a home environment. And I think check out for first day by getting up early and then may be have breakfast with them and then go to sleep. You will know first day what their expectations are. And it appears they are some army family in Pakistan, they will like it too. But most probably the lady of the house will tell you to take your time anyway.
Any staying with them will keep you away from too many weird questions. Good to behave Pakistani and this way, they will be happy too that you stayed with them.
