The point of the thread is - what should be asked (and what questions are in poor taste) and the method of asking and validating the information. Obviously the method of how to validate the information differs depending on the circumstances. No one should take on faith what someone else has said because there are liars both abroad and in Pakistan.
And your last remark to Reha and women in the west - totally uncalled for - it speaks to your mindset and shows you in a bad light, not others.