when rishta comes...

[Reha]

Re: when rishta comes…

@Omer259

You give a really good example and in some cases that can happen. However, what I am saying is ,I know families who have known each other for decades. They know each and every detail about what theirs and others children are doing. They have grown up together, attended the same schools, attended the same parties, so there is no detail that they do not know about each other. So, definitely there is trust there.

There is nothing wrong with doing background checks if you do not know the family as well as I have described but there is a proper way of doing it, not asking for documentary proof, residency, salary as the confused ABCD Reha describes it. A little ettiquette lesson for Reha on how I would verify a person’s education without asking for the degree point blank. I would talk to people who studied in the same college/university, ask other friends/relatives who have gone to that college, not demand proof like a ***** as Reha is suggesting.

I dont think you understand how things work here…so you’re obviously unable to advise on matters where you have little knowledge. The only reason you dont make me mad is because you have no idea what you’re talking about…I cant hold that against you now can I? We can hope and pray you will know better someday and thats about it.

What you’re describing is not what people do here…its as simple as that. You live in Pakistan and we dont. We do things differently here. You went to school with your mama, chacha and taya’s sons and daughters. We went to school with non-desies. Get over it. Here, you cannot just call the university, get an aunty or uncle on the phone and say “you know shahid uncle’s son? did he go to uni over there? yeah? okay, thank you ji! see you for dinner on saturday!” or “aunty ji poochna tha ke ye jo larkay valay aye thay humaray ghar kal…inke betay kaam apki company mein karte hain na?”. There are privacy laws and HR.

So yes, verification is necessary because I would prefer not to sponsor someone or babysit them.