when rishta comes...

[Omer259]

Re: when rishta comes…

@noor321

@Omer259
God seriously. Ok imagine if you were the father of a daughter and you had gotten her married to someone who was in your social circle or through a friend. Then allah na karay the guy turns out to be uneducated but belongs to a rich family. Although when you asked people, everyone told you he was educated. This could be because the people you asked were in their plan or had no idea because they thought he was, because he belonged to a rich family. Wouldn’t you regret your decision then? Just because people you know tell the rishta is good doesn’t mean it is.

I know of an example where the couple are first cousins but the guy turned out to be a jerk and keeps asking the girls family for money. So even if you are close family it doesn’t guarantee whatever they tell you is true.

You give a really good example and in some cases that can happen. However, what I am saying is ,I know families who have known each other for decades. They know each and every detail about what theirs and others children are doing. They have grown up together, attended the same schools, attended the same parties, so there is no detail that they do not know about each other. So, definitely there is trust there.

There is nothing wrong with doing background checks if you do not know the family as well as I have described but there is a proper way of doing it, not asking for documentary proof, residency, salary as the confused ABCD Reha describes it. A little ettiquette lesson for Reha on how I would verify a person’s education without asking for the degree point blank. I would talk to people who studied in the same college/university, ask other friends/relatives who have gone to that college, not demand proof as Reha is suggesting.