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sayo u do it with family, u do it at certain ocasions..reh kya gaya :p
PCG i know n i try to, but sometimes i will like hold something in my hand n pretend like its busy
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bohut kuch ray gaya.. if u know waht i am saying.. but yeah dude we are majorly off topic if u wanna open a thread ill contribute :D
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Matsui hugz someone that understands.
Hey found this funny article. Seems kinda appropriate. 
Although that is NOT what was going on in my mind today when i saw this kid.
But sadly enough these thoughts did occur to me when I was crushing on him. 
Salami Salam
Written by: Hamzah Moin
Saying salams to the opposite gender on campus is actually quite the trivial issue. Some scholars say that men should be required to initiate the salams to the sister while other scholars say it should be sister that should start off with the salams.
The following scenario looks at a common incident through different points of view and what exactly is going on inside the minds of a sister and a brother (in Islam).
Sister’s Point of View:
sister walks out of exam hall
Oh my gyad, that chemistry test was so easy! I’m sooooo happy for finishing my last exam. This is the happiest day of my life! LOL!
a brother exits from opposite exam hall
Oh, WHO is that? Is he Muslim? He has an ugly beard ewww. He looks scary. And WHY is he walking this way? Oh my God he’s headed straight towards me! Okay, be calm… it’s all normal. Just be polite and make eye contact and…
BROTHER: Assalamu Alaikum
SISTER: Walaikum Musalam
OH MY GOD. He just said salams to me! No way it must have been to someone else. Wait, but there is no one else around. OH MY GOD IT WAS FOR ME. But why? Why would a random brother just say salams to me? It just doesn’t make sense. I’ve been wearing this hijab for ages… so why the salams NOW?
Hmmm, this brother looks like he’s almost done in under grad. Isn’t that the brother who got into med school? Wow he’s so smart mashAllah. Why would someone like that say SALAM to me? Was he just trying to be nice? Hmmm.
OR maybe he was being MORE than nice. Yeah I think that has to be it. OMG no way. Does he like me??? I’ve never seen him before but I sometimes study in the science library so he probably saw me. Why wouldn’t he say salams to me then? Maybe he was waiting to become more secure in his field before saying salams to me? I think that must be it. He is no doubt scouting people… of course.
This is soooo weird lol. But mashAllah he’s a good looking brother. I’m sure he’s pious. That beard looks good on him mashAllah. I wonder if he’s talked to his parents about me yet? I hope his parents will like me. I’m a nice girl though. All the aunties love my personality lol.
But if he lives far away then I might have to move close to his parents’ house because his job will probably be around there. Oh man the change in life will be sooooo hard to get used to. I wonder if he’s going to live in his own place or if we’re going to move in with his parents? I wouldn’t mind living with his parents ONLY if they’re open-minded. Uffff I hate close-minded people. I want to have nice in-laws.
I hope he wants a simple Nikkah. I can’t stand all that extravagant crap that goes on nowadays. He seems very simple and down-to-earth though mashAllah. Definitely my kind of man. I wonder how he is with kids. I don’t mind having kids but he better not be the type that wants like 50 kids. OMG that would so suck. 3 is a good number. I like the names Bilal , Mariam and Ayesha. InshAllah it’ll be in that order.
I wonder if he’s very science-y. I don’t like when people are too science-y. I think our kids should do anything they want as long as they are successful. Bilal would make a good social worker I think.
He seems like the type that would always compliment my cooking, no matter how bad it is lol J I hate guys who think women belong in the kitchen. I think he’ll help out once in awhile too. He seems so gentle and delicate hahah.
Wow I hope when Bilal grows up he’ll let me and that brother live with him. I don’t want to go to any retirement home! No inshAllah that brother will instil good values into Bilal. But OMG should I wait until he says salams again? I’m sure he’ll make the first move.
Brother’s Point of View.
brother walks out of exam hall
Wow. I think I failed that exam. I haven’t shaven for days because of these stupid exams. I look like a werewolf. Stupid science. I think I’ll switch into political science next year… I can’t take this. Hey is that a hijabi over there? Hmmm I think I should be polite and say salams.
BROTHER: Assalamu Alaikum
SISTER: Walaikum Musalam
Man, I’m hungry. I wonder what’s for dinner tonight? Hopefully spaghetti.
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I like it that a lot of Muslim guys don't say hello. Unless it is out of rudeness, I find that shyness and modesty very admirable.
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I dont think in my case it was shyness or modesty.
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lol..but whats the big deal with touching hands…its not like ur gonna get pregnant or something..
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btw pcg ur still a loser
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I visited hamzah moin’s site a while ago. He’s hilarious. A really great sense of humour, I love it.
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^oh gawd Lussi.. if some guy is acting shady and wants to shake hands.. ofcourse not , as i said before there's a right time for it..
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yeah ur supposedly a male so u wont get it 
okay u knwo what just dont shake hands will me and it will be fine.. u dramaqueen 
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yeh i dont shake hands with women anyways..i give em hugs…
for u sayonee
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LOL… guys give it a rest… dun shoot the messenger here … enough of the beating already 
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ok heres what i dont get.. a paki guy, wont look at you wont say hi. (the family friend ones) but they all have white gfs and and just plain friends that are girls at school!! i dont get it.
well i dont have any paki guy family friends at school, but if you do, do they say hi to you at school??
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well, maybe he wasnt interested. dont take it to your heart. guys mostly are not like this. ive found them being too eager to say "hello" by climbing right in front of me out of no where. this guy may be a different case.
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Pertinent to your specific scenario PCG, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not saying hello… irrespective of whether you rejected the other or vice versa.
If I were the one who was rejected, I won’t say hello cuz I’d prolly try to retire from the whole situation and not wanna think about the other person… secondly, I wouldn’t be sure how the other person’s gonna react – not saying hello will be a way to maintain my self-efficacy.
On the other hand, if I was the person who declined someone’s advances, I would be uncomfortable interacting with them in the future cuz the other person might start thinking of me as egotistical and arrogant because I rejected them and still have the nerve to say hello.
Dunno if that made any sense… but its just a way to avert an awkward moment.
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To expand on this, the reason many muslim guys don’t say hello is because many muslim girls are not comfortable with stranger guys speaking to them. Thats reality. It has nothing to do with rudeness as some out of touch folks imply. It is out of modesty - to avoid an uncomfortable situation for both parties.
Other reasons are girls tend to make a big deal if a guy says hello and starts to think he wants her or somewhat. They get an ego boost and tell all their friends making an issue out of something so simple and giving the guy a rep. So we avoid those ‘types’.
And in some cases, shyness 
In PCG’s case, she simply got rejected.The guy wanted nothing (can’t blame him) to do with her
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a muslim guy shouldnt even be looking at a muslim girl /or any non mahrem woman never minding speaking to her or saying hello!
i think its so nice when a muslim guy respects you and doesnt make any nonesense conversation with you, i agree with saraSplendor. thats really hard to find these days.
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Chances are, it has little to do with you in the sense that you are thinking (meaning he was rejecting you again and wanted to get away from you) and more to do with the fact that he was simply uncomfortable and didn’t know how to react when seeing you. It’s easier to runaway and hide than act normal for a lot of people.
Try not to take it personally cause I don’t think he was trying to reject you again, although he did end up making you feel bad. It’s childish behaviour on his part. Don’t worry, he will grow up one day, and by then, you will have found someone worthy of you who can act like a grown up.
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pcg ignore individuals who say shouldnt ask a guy out, if a guy is too much of a ladt then someones got to do somthing, This guy sounds like a loser though.