Frankly i get pissed off.
Moreover my som Talha fights a lot (with kids on the block). Many times i have given a good talk to other kids.
ANother problem is that Talha does not back off if bullied and at times takes stick or wicket to fight. One day he even took a knife from the kitchen. Bcoz of this i try to be around when he is playing outside.
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I help the losing side to make it more fair for everybody.
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What are his TV watching habits like?
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How old is the little guy? He could be headed for trouble here....esp in the west where they're taking bullies very seriously. Maybe get him some anger management sessions with a child psychologist before he gets to the point where he's required to do this. Sounds like he really needs to learn how to better handle his anger and his relationships with peers. Taking a knife, thats a really scary thing, yeah? So help him figure things out before he's sent off to "juvie"...good luck and best wishes to the little guy.
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I agree with mama, you say u have iven a good talk to other kids, but what about your kid, I mean taking wickets, sticks and all to fights is bad enough but for a 6-7 year old to take a knife is simply wrong on so many levels.
the good thign is that you are a sensible fellow and he is young, so you can help him adjust his behavior. InshaAllah it will be okay with a little effort, some tough love and discipline.
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Frankly i get pissed off.
Moreover my som Talha fights a lot (with kids on the block). Many times i have given a good talk to other kids.
ANother problem is that Talha does not back off if bullied and at times takes stick or wicket to fight. One day he even took a knife from the kitchen. Bcoz of this i try to be around when he is playing outside.
Teach him swimming he can burn off a lot of access energy.............:)
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a knife?
no offense...but your kids needs professional help.
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Frankly i get pissed off.
Moreover my som Talha fights a lot (with kids on the block). Many times i have given a good talk to other kids.
ANother problem is that Talha does not back off if bullied and at times takes stick or wicket to fight. One day he even took a knife from the kitchen. Bcoz of this i try to be around when he is playing outside.
Im sorry to say but that sounds like really pent up aggression.I would suggest a book called "Family First" by Dr Phil Mcgraw..it really takes you inside the minds of your kids.
Have you talked to him to vocalize his feelings like he is feeling angry or frustrated.I know most of the kinds cant explain very well how they r feeling and I used a chart that had faces of different anger/frustration faces that helpd to identify what the mood actually is.Also kids that age tell you a lot as to the reason of why they are feeling that way when they are playing or talking about other stuff..U have to cue yourself in to watch for the words/actions.
For the bullying situation..he needs to learn to walk away and tell the adults instead of taking steps himself.He needs to know that YOU as his parent are there to protect him but not at the cost of viewing everything biased to your son.Please ask the whole story so that you have a better view and understaninding as to WHY he is acting out like that:)
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How old is the little guy? He could be headed for trouble here....esp in the west where they're taking bullies very seriously. Maybe get him some anger management sessions with a child psychologist before he gets to the point where he's required to do this. Sounds like he really needs to learn how to better handle his anger and his relationships with peers. Taking a knife, thats a really scary thing, yeah? So help him figure things out before he's sent off to "juvie"...good luck and best wishes to the little guy.
He is 6.
I am in a difficult situation here.
He himself is not a bully but he gets really pissed off is someone else does. And the kids on the block fight often.
I can either stop him from playing with them but i don't want him to become a dull TV watcher, he loves going out. But yeah anger management is an issue.
Then many times he gets into things that are not his business. Like i saw him fighting with a kid and i stopped him and asked why are fighting and he says coz he beat my friend etc. I have tried talking to him about it many times but till now it hasn't been working.
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it must be a very tense situation for u ..
some kids get possessed by ooperi asraat and do things beyond their mental level ..
have him given some rohani phoonk
in all seriousness
taking a knife is scary .. and he is only 6
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My heart goes out to you and your boy Icon. Little ones learn best by modeling their behavior after those they hang around with. It sounds like your boy is in a rough crowd out there, kids who handle anger with violence. He sees that, he sees that the toughest and meanest get the most "respect" from the other kids....anger management would help I'm sure but if its possible, maybe arrange a neighborhood "watch" where parents and caregivers take turns watching the kids and intervening whenever things get rough. Give them good examples and teach them how to model their behavior and resolve conflicts without violence. It would also be possible to ask your local Mosque or church to have someone come by the area and hang out with the "gang" every now and then to help give them a good example and some good guidance.
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mamaof3
wouldnt it also be appropriate to try and change the group that kids hang out with, if the nieghbourhood is rough, then sometimes it makes sense to have the kids be part of sports teams or other afterschool activities where parents have a better control over the type of kids there and usually with coaches and instructors etc, you have some authority figure around.
because its hard to change other people;s kids, so short of just moving to a different place, this may work. It takes more effort and time to drive kids around for their activities etc, but in the end you help build better foundations in the formative years.
thoughts?
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I think that you need to find some activities to channel some of the agression that he has. You said that you get "pissed off". No offense, but do you also have difficult channeling your anger? As some one else mentioned, how much television does he watch and what types of programs is he viewing?
I would also keep him away from the kids that he is fighting with. Honestly, you have to take this very seriously - a six year old going to fetch a knife or wicket is certainly cause for concern.
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hin33 you are beyond help if you think its roohani etc etc , whats happening is that he is letting out his entire energy in one blow because he thinks hes superman.
I gifted my lil cousin a boxing bag - he didnt get into fight troubles after that, because its natural that once they confront something sturdy and powerful they will know how to exercise their strength and anger in more useful ways to overcome it.
The knives, beating up part is because they are living in la la land of drama, movies and cheap jap animation
The mom needs to check on what he sees and hears - watch him closely that what he likes to do most - narrow him onto it.
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hin33 you are beyond help if you think its roohani etc etc , whats happening is that he is letting out his entire energy in one blow because he thinks hes superman.
I gifted my lil cousin a boxing bag - he didnt get into fight troubles after that, because its natural that once they confront something sturdy and powerful they will know how to exercise their strength and anger in more useful ways to overcome it.
The knives, beating up part is because they are living in la la land of drama, movies and cheap jap animation
The mom needs to check on what he sees and hears - watch him closely that what he likes to do most - narrow him onto it.
the mom? i think mom and dad both are responsible
rest I agree with you 100%
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trash those kids ..it helps 
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I think that you need to find some activities to channel some of the agression that he has. You said that you get "pissed off". No offense, but do you also have difficult channeling your anger? As some one else mentioned, how much television does he watch and what types of programs is he viewing?
I would also keep him away from the kids that he is fighting with. Honestly, you have to take this very seriously - a six year old going to fetch a knife or wicket is certainly cause for concern.
I don't think there is any activity that can help him channel off his energies. The only time he is still iswhen he is sleeping and studying. At all other times either he is cycling, running or jumping. ANd there is no exaggeration in it. Even when he is watching TV he is jumping from one sofa to another constantly.
The problem with what kids watch is bit tricky. The most kids channel offer the usual cartoons. May be i need to make more effort on this issue.
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By the way since the knife incident, i am always around when he plays outside but at times i have evening duties. I had asked my Dad to watch them when i am not at home n evening but he is oldstyle guy, he thinks its natual for the kids to fight.
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hmm
Ive heard afeem ka doda is something to calm kids.
and you just stated your prob i.e. the kids dad being oldschool - get him to realise that its not normal for kids to be fighting with weapons - cmon its natural that even cubs fight - but they dont have claws or teeth now do they?????
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Without any prejudice, please try to analyze if your own behavior at home depicts aggressiveness. It is easy for the kids to pick up and imitate their parents individual and interactive behaviors.
At times we need to change our own behaviors for the well being of our own kids.