… I find it quite absurd … but recently I met a girl , who is just 12 and she says she’s in proper wala love …
And then sometime back I happened to meet a couple … newly wed … the guy said , he had liked the girl ever since he was 10 !!!
Can kids actually fall in love? love that can lead to marriage? … I had always thought kids knew only one relationship and that was friendship … but love ? no … how do they know what love is .. or what it means to get married etc etc … or are they adult souls trapped in kids bodies?
Ummm... I think kids are capable of a more selfless love than we adults are, and it doesn't involve physical attraction so yeah they can definitely love.... sometimes it turns into marriage wala love, sometimes it stays as friendship but yeah. I totally believe they can love.
Teenage wala love I don't really believe in, thats just hormones/curiosity/crush, etc. but then again you never know.
I know a couple in pakistan they got married when boy was 24 and girl was 22.. They were in love when boy was 14 and girl was 12.. when girl turn to 15 and her rishta's were coming , She refused all rishta and she said to her parents she will marry him only... and he was still studen then when he got job at teh age of 24 they got married.. Means 10 years of love and now they are happily married Masha ALLAH
Its cos of all these soap dramas ..like hollyoaks and eastenders .. and its quiet sad in a way that parentds actually either let their children watch these soaps or they re not bothered what the kids watch ..cos i dnt even watch these …and i still know the plots in these two soaps ..cos when am teaching the kids from four til eight .. all i hear kids talking about these days about the t20 world cup or what happend in eastenders or hollyoaks ..
so i personally blame the tv in one way and the other ..is schools ..the education the kids get in biology lessons and they get rules told as having freedom to do whatever ..and even your parents cant touch you …
n top of all this ..its msn ..facebook resulting open access to the internet ..where the kids are secluded .. no one to question them .. so al these ingredients put togeather .. creat a kids mind .. leading from one thing to another .. in this case ..from friendship ..to b/f ..g/f ..and chori chori msn lol .. parents have no clue whats going on .. untill ..like two weks back .. a guy knocked on our door .. and he wanted my dad to do nikah ceremony .. dad said ok .. but later found out that shes a gori and not even reverted yet ..
Usually puppy love but I guess rarely it might be the real thing (some kids are a lot smarter and mature than we give them credit for)
There was a couple in the US years ago who were 13 or something and committed suicide together Romeo and Juliet style.. remember reading about it in Elle, both were hispanic but can't remember much else apart from the girl being v.pretty :(
The kids are taking the idea of "love" literally and so are you, CB. When we haven't gone through a similar experience ourselves.....it can become tougher for us to relate to it/understand it.
I agree with Deeba.....that this so-called "love" that kids feel is more like a "puppy love" or "crush" because they lack the maturity to understand what love entails.
As a teacher, I've seen kids in preschool, elementary school, and middle school have crushes on one another. And this includes BOTH public school AND Islamic school. I remember MYSELF having various crushes as a kid in elementary school and up...........so it doesn't feel odd to me. Doesn't shock me. Now that I'm older.....I do find the sentimental gushing that comes with crushes to be a bit silly.
For example, only yesterday I saw a girl (and this is in a Muslim school) in the 6th grade cry because some other girl had said that her crush was ugly. I found the emotional loyalty of the girl to be a bit over-the-top and somewhat comical.......but then I remembered my own silly/dramatic crushes as a kid and teenager. So, I was able to relate to it. But of course with age....you become more mature and things that seem liked mountains back them seem more like molehills now. :)
Everything cannot be blamed on TV or Soap or liberalism.
In Muslim society of Indo Pak kids were allowed to stage gudday guria key shadi ( staging Barbie and Ken wedding , I guess) . That was their training for starting a romance and end it in a marriage and ruin their lives ( just kidding here).
Majority of kids are not so silly to have crush or fall in love only few are so dumb to go for those kind of idiotic notions Most kids are more interested in playing sports and games and other extra curricular activities rather then wasting their time going after opposite or same gender in search of romance.
… I find it quite absurd … but recently I met a girl , who is just 12 and she says she’s in proper wala love 
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Most kids are more interested in playing sports and games and other extra curricular activities rather then wasting their time going after opposite or same gender in search of romance. 