Re: When is it time to divorce?
when is a good time? when you have exhausted all options to genuinely try and make the marriage work.
It is a tell tale sign that it's time to call it quits when you have so much anger, hate and resentment towards each other that you wish the worse for the other person. When your fights are no longer behind closed doors and the people around you are effected by it especially the children. When you see your kids frightened little faces and they start to cry each and every time their parents fight. When you become so enraged that you want to bang the other persons head against the wall but you restrain yourself not because you dont want to harm them but because you dont want to go to jail. Last but not least, when you have come to the point where physical violence is the norm in your relationship.
when you go through any of the above.....it's time for a divorce.
p.s staying in a marriage for the sake of the kids is ok to a certain extent I agree with that so long they dont see what is going on. Realistically however kids are very smart...they will see what it going on and they will nvr erase the memories of how terrified they were and they will always remember each and every fight they have witnessed.
Hello!
You are so right here Angel Eyes. It may seem like if you are in any of the above situation, you should actually have been contemplating divorce much earlier. But in reality, a lot of people need to reach the crisis point to help them make the tough decision. Till then they dont call it quits bcos of one or some of these reasons:
- hope that the spouse will change
- society pressure
- for the sake of the kids
- fear of being alone
- general comfort in the situation as is rather than the unknown
- lethargy/inertia...you need someone to actually decide for you
- you manage to pick yourself up from a fight and convince yourself that its not really that bad...until the next fight
Its a horrible thing to go through...and yet even more horrifying not to go through it if your relationship is really messed up. You will definetly end up messing up your kids.