My bachas are still not ready to take any responsibility. is that alright? Have times changed? Have our priorities in raising kids changed? Have the needs of the times changed?
this is very bad, my children were expected to help me when they were very young. I asked them to pick things up when they were two to three. Put toys away and clothes too, they took a cup back to the kitchen when I tidied away. that was along time ago now and things have changed.
Why didnt you teach them as your mother taught you?
when i was 8, i was a male version of "cinderella" and i still am :D*....did a lot of work both inside and outside the house...i must say i was very street smart "GALI smart" rather coz i was in a village, hehe] :D
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this is very bad, my children were expected to help me when they were very young. I asked them to pick things up when they were two to three. Put toys away and clothes too, they took a cup back to the kitchen when I tidied away. that was along time ago now and things have changed.
Why didnt you teach them as your mother taught you?
You are treating your daughter like princesses :D Nothing wrong in it accept you need to give them a wake up call.Princess time to wake up in real world:D I am doing that to my princess too :D
I was pretty much raised as a princess, but I did do a lot of these sorts of things by the time I was 8. My youngest brother, however, did not.
I think that the way kids are raised here in the West, they have their own routines and schedules -- that's how I'm realizing I'm raising mine. Whereas in Pakistan kids are brought into the routine of the household and do things with other people. I think maybe that encourages them to be more participants in the care for the household. It's not just something their parents do -- it's something we all do.
mine just turned 8 today Ah.
many of these things she does not do.....I must be a bad mommy too.
on the flip side....about a month ago she cooked a chicken ka salam from start to finish with minimal supervision........
When I was 8, I did everything my parents told me to do. I didn't follow their orders b/c I enjoyed doing it. I did it out of fear.....fear of being punished for not listening to my parents. I could think whatever I wanted.....but my parents made it crystal clear that I was expected to follow their order without question.
I don't have chidren of my own yet but I have a few friends that do and their children are raised the same way. Heck my best friend's 6 year old helps her fold laundry!
Niksik:
1) When you tell your daughter to make the bed, or take her plate to sink after eating, or to fold laundry......if she doesn't do it......what are the consequences for her?
2) Why would she feed herself if you keep on feeding her? What would she do if you didn't feed her? Die starving and not feed herself?
I'm surprised that your 8 year old think she actually has a choice in whether or not she will do what you tell her to do. Does she get to decide whether or not she will go to school or do her homework? Not sure why she gets to decide whether or not she'll do chores....
Even after "why do I have do this", "This is not fair", "my arms are tired", "why can't you do this" - I do keep on insisting that they empty the dishwasher daily, clean their room, make thier beds and help out with the laundry.
They help out in chores but 50% of time but not without complaining. Keep at it.
