What do you do (if youre not really teh host, your parents are)? Do you go and do your own thing? or do you stay downstairs and entertain the guests no matter how bored you might get? Do you think its rude when you go to someone’s house and the kids go out and do watever they want, esp when the guests have kids the same age as the host family’s children?
Personally i find it rude when they go abt doing their own thing, esp when theres ppl your age around. But at the same time I think it might be unfair to make them sit there and talk to ppl they dont know or care abt esp if one or both parties might not like each othe ror be painfully shy.
If they have kids my age, I stick around and chit chat…even if theyre boring and im bored… hang around till the end…if theyre really really boring, i just go to the kitchen and show that im working
If no kids to talk to…I go to my room and do whatever
Now, since i am the host i have to hang around but when i was at my parents we were suppose to hang around regardless if kids or no kids.....just to be respectful and i have always been very talkative so i kinda enjoyed it.....
Western VS Eastern values
Back home in Pakistan guests almost ALWAYS dropped in WITHOUT information and they were always greeted open hearted - no stone would be left unturned to entertain them - someone would rush to the doodh walay ki dukan to get Thandi BootlaiN etc etc.
Kids were expected to behave - no hard and fast rules. If someone showed a bit of attitude, then he / she would be dealt with, accordingly, after the guests leave.
Here in the west, the rules of the game are entirely different. If someone drops in without informing, the hosts have full rights to refuse entry or at best say that they themselves are leaving for someplace
If the guests have been invited by parents, the kids would be introduced, but they dont have to hang around…
If you have people your own age, you should politely invite them over to your room / area / whatever .. and show them around the house, your music CD’s, movies collection etc etc. They shouldn’t touch anything without permission. Then maybe if you get friendly, you may watch a movie in your room, and let the parents do their chit chat in peace.
You forgot to mention one thing about eastern values…
As soon as guests used to exit the main door of the house, all the kids used to rush towards food area (bakery stuff) served for the guests on the table:rotfl:
also if the guests’ kids broke a vase or a gulldan, the hosts would say;
“Aray koi baat nahi , bachha hay - koi baat nahi”
And INSIDE they are giving the choicest gaaliaaN to the guest and Kids
And the guest would be “Burri baat munnay, aap nay gulldan tooR diyaa, chaloo idhar aa kay baithoo, aunty naraz ho rahi haiN”
I once had daal moTh in my mouth and that biscuit in my hand on top of which drop of jelly is sitting, when the guests re-entered the house from the main door again:eek: … apparently that aunty forgot to take her purse away…
Itni bisti kharaab huee thee uss din
I, after that incident, started going out to make sure about their departure along with their belongings
@ AQ
