^ but why is it so wrong for women to want to be self-satisfied and fulfilled in their careers before deciding to have children? a lot of women don't feel ready until they're older and/or just want to be more independent and more sure of themselves before they commit to birthing a child. having a child is just the beginning, its a job for the rest of your life so i think its important that women, as primary caregivers, go into it with clear heads and no regrets.
I have no problem with women having kids in their 40s, what ever Allah has decided for them.. but I was merely talking about those who deliberately put it on hold for selfish reasons.. oh they wanna make their career first or they are too afraid to lose their freedom.. or even worst they don't like kids to begin with.
I agree, having at least one child before you hit 30 is the ideal way.. cause you have to be young to play with them or take them out for camping or whatever... what maza it is when you are pushing 40s all coughing and sweating and do not even have one child in your life... nada!
These days, people in their 40s tend to be healthier (and i mean REAL healthy, not hte seriously bass-ackwards desi version of "healthy") than before......a woman who is healthy enough to conceive a child and have a normal pregnancy will probably be healthy enough to take care of her kid til later in life.
Some people in their 20s and 30s aren't financially stable and that stress can contribute to poor health and even poor parenting (taking out frustrations on each other, the children etc).
I have no problem with women having kids in their 40s, what ever Allah has decided for them.. but I was merely talking about those who deliberately put it on hold for selfish reasons.. oh they wanna make their career first or they are too afraid to lose their freedom.. or even worst they don't like kids to begin with.
More importantly, why should you have a problem, regardless, of what any woman does or when she has a child or what her reason is for wanting or not wanting children?
Are they taking anything away from you?