.. what are the restrictions upon the wife?
I know of iddat (4 months and 10 days) and i understand the reasoning behind it. But what is a woman allowed and not allowed to do during this time?
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Iddat is where the widow should not see non-mehrams. I don't think there are any other restrictions?
I'm interested to learn more on this topic, as my knowledge is very limited.
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From another web site...
'Iddah, The Waiting Period
The Waiting Period is four months ten days for widows. (2:234) Those among you who die and leave wives behind, they shall wait four months and ten days before they remarry. ---.
Women Are Not To Be Held Captives during their Waiting Periods. The Qur'an places only one restriction, remarriage. But under the "Imamist" influence a divorced Muslim woman or widow is expected to live a life of complete asceticism and deprivation during the Waiting Period. She is told not to leave her home, see any visitors, participate in any ceremnoies, socialize in any form, dress decently, wear new clothes, use perfumes or even light make-up such as eye-shade, talcum powder, etc etc.
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^ that seems to be more cultural than Islamic....dont you think FG.
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funguy, whats the source?
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source: http://www.ourbeacon.com
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yeah funguy, thats what an aunty i know is made to do.
I mean, she has 4 jawan kids.. two married ones with kids themselves and she's been asked to stay home and not allowed to go anywhere.
Her daughter just had a baby and is in hospital, and the aunty was told she couldnt leave the house to be with her daughter.. its wierd.
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as far as i know, the only reason of this "waiting period" before remarrying is to be sure that the widow/divorced woman is not carrying an off spring of the previous husband. a woman is free to remarry after completing her three menstrual cycles. and only she would know when she completed. no mullah or other people.
all the other restrictions............. MY @$$
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she is under no restriction to carry out normal routine. It's made-up stuff like this that has taken muslims away from deen. Islam is a very practical deen.
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Islam's message has really been confused by some.. the reasoning for iddat is quite simple and logical. These extra restrictions people place are just silly..
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Allah says: “For those who are pregnant, their waiting period is until they deliver their burdens.” [Sûrah al-Talâq: 4]
^ this proves my point. i dont know why our mullahs complicate religion to "feel important"
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Here’s what I found:
http://www.islamtoday.com/show_detail_section.cfm?q_id=766&main_cat_id=8
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hmmm… im gonna do some resaerch…
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sadzzz, do share your findings.
Here’s some more:
http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=13966&dgn=4
http://www.islam.ca/answers.php?id=701 <<< Shafi view
Unfortunately, the Hanafi site (ask-imam.com) is down, else I would’ve posted their view as well.
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I've read a few mixed articles, Sadiyah.
Some of them do give similar restrictions as you've posted above, but they also point out where the restrictions can be i guess "changed" or made more "lenient".
In case of a woman who needs to go out to get neccesities or work or health wise.. and women who own businesses..
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Sadiyah, this is very GOOD evidence of pure extremism on the part of some scholar out there who thinks he knows it all. In the Quran, there is a verse where God asks us not to Prohibit something that He Himself has not prohibited. If you read the Quran, you will definitely see that verse.
She has to stay in the house that was her residence at the time that her husband died until the end of her `iddah.
What is the proof of this?
**The duration of the iddah is four months and ten days, unless she is pregnant, in which case her iddah will be until she gives birth. Allah says: “For those who are pregnant, their waiting period is until they deliver their burdens.” [Sûrah al-Talâq: 4] **
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She may not go out of the house except for necessities such as going to the hospital due to illness or in order to purchase what she needs from the marketplace, like food, if there is no one available to make those purchases for her.
What proof?
In case something happens to the house itself, she may go to live elsewhere. She may also leave her house if she has no one to keep her company and she fears for herself. In such situations, she may go to another house in consideration of her needs.
What Proof?
The woman while observing `iddah may not wear beautiful clothes. It makes no difference whether those clothes are yellow, green, or any other color. She must wear clothes that are not beautiful, regardless of whether those clothes are black, green, or some other color. What matters is that the clothes are not beautiful, because this is what the Prophet (peace be upon him) commanded.
What proof? And besides, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. So who is to say she’s wearing something pretty or not?
Also, the woman may not wear jewelry like gold, silver, pearls, and diamonds in any form, including rings, chains bracelets, and armlets.
Proof?
She may not wear perfume of any type. However, she may use incense only on the occasion of attaining purity from her menses. She may not use henna, saffron or perfume. She may not use saffron in her clothes or for her coffee, as it is a type of perfume.
Proof?
Also, she should avoid using antimony in her eyes or applying any type of cosmetics to her face. She may apply nothing to her face that might beautify it in a provocative way, though normal beauty care with the use of soap and water is permitted. However, antimony that beautifies the eyes and all other kinds of cosmetics must be strictly avoided.
Proof?
With respect to the notions that some common people have concocted – that the woman in `iddah may not talk to anyone or use the telephone, or wash except once a week, or that she may not walk in her house barefoot or under the moonlight, and other similar fictions – they are all quite baseless.
Like most of the stuff this mullah has described.
The woman in `iddah may not be approached by anyone for marriage. Talk of marriage may be hinted at indirectly, but no direct proposals are allowed.
Proof?
And Allah knows best.
Yes, He does. That’s why he has a very clear ayah in the Quran that says not to prohibit anything that He Himself has not prohibited. Somehow we never look at what the Quran says, but verbal diarrhea is very apparent in our ummah.
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^ hey PCG, could you tell me where that ayah is as well? where Allah Mian prohibits anyone from prohibiting which He has not himself? thanks
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I can give you that and much more, although I'm surprised you don't know of it, since you frequent the religion forums quite a bit - its been quoted here well enough.
*"O you prophet, why do you prohibit what God has made lawful to you, just to please your wives?" 66:1 *
The Prophet went ahead and apparently forbid SOMETHING that God had not forbidden. And he, even being a Prophet, was reprimanded! So, don't go around thinking that something you get off some religious website is going to be accurate, and true, Sadiyah NECESSARILY just because its from a religious website!
More proof as to the role of the Prophet and the ultimate and completeness of the Quran as a source of laws to be implemented in society.
"The sole duty of the messenger is to deliver the message" 5:99
Note the word "sole"! And this is God talking, not me.
"Shall I seek other than God as a source of Law......" 6:114
In this ayah if you look it up, it claims God is the only source of Law. So where do Hadith lie? And this is a categorical statement by the way, so no need to pull in any other verses to justify using hadith.
And here's a nice little token for all of you that DO want to blindly follow hadith, which are written by man and CLAIMED to be the words of the prophet, and are blindly followed by every arhay gharay who most likely doesn't even know that hadith are categorized as weak, sahih etc.
"The halal is that which Allah has made lawful in His Book and haram is that which He has forbidden, and that concerning which He is silent He has permitted as a favour to you."
So if God doesn't mention something explicitly in the Quran as not being allowed, then you cannot say it is not allowed - not even the Prophet can say that its not allowed. Just based on this hadith alone, loads of hadith's should be nullified. Additionally, many of these "religious websites" should not be followed either.
How can you follow the words of a person you don't even SEE? And I'm talking from experience, yes.
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thanks PCG and na... i dont come here much at all
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I know someone else who did that...
Basically, in my own wordings, you carry on as if your husband was alive...(After 7 days for women according to my knowledge...For it is allowed 3 days for everyone and 7 days for a wife to mourn...WAllaho-Alam)...