masha-allah...i am so so happy to read all the replies on this forum..its just so surreal...i thought i would get feedback like " ant ou bear your own".."jub Allah ne is qabil banaya hai tou kiun na shukri kerti ho"...cos i know even my own mom as not too happy to hear this and not my closest best frind either.... gosh i am so happy i put my question down here..thankyou all...i am thinking now that our coming generations are going to be so much more helpful and non-judgemental...will always base decisions on facts and not fiction...this can really change a whole society and over-ride nonsense we hear around us all the time no?
I discussed this thread with my husband and asked him, if he were ever to consider adopting, would he think "what would my parents say about this?" He said no, he wouldn't consider what others had to say, not his parents either, anyway he didn't think they would discourage him.
Bubli, I think once you have actually adopted I think you mother would get used to the idea and won't be so negative, inshallah.