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^ so we assume that u hav been there? how long...??
PS: please don't confuse old homes with prisons.
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7 years, 49 days, 13 hours and counting :(
must have been my great attitude :D
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I only know about old homes here in Karachi. They are no way a decent place to live. I would never ever send my parents or parents in law to old homes , it's just something my mind and heart can not accept. I feel it's inhumane.
For my own self , I have 1 daughter and I would not interfere in her life. That is why I would like to have my own place where I can spend my old age and that way my daughter will also have a mehka to visit. I will not choose to live with my daughter as I would prefer to die with the comfort and peace in my heart that my daughter is well settled and I don't want to disturb her life by living with her.
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QFT :k:
And I swear some of you people are really not good for my blood pressure.
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I wouldnt dream of it. Its like they have done all they could for you, and now instead of helping them out when they need you the most, you send them away so that they can wait for their death.
I know its probably not easy , taking care of elderly parents and your children, but thats life.
On the other hand, I dont know what I would want once I get to that age, but I know I wouldnt send my parents or in-laws to 'old homes'.
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I have volunteered at a nursing home and it’s definitely not a place where I would send my parents or my in-laws. Sure, you get a comfortable room and you get ‘healthy’ meals i.e. a bland mesh, but the nurses aren’t exactly there to provide you company or humor you. Often times, they would get so irritated if a senior was walking really slow or had trouble getting out of bed. Their tone towards the elderly was also really mean. They would also make fun of them and ridicule them! Obviously they were at ‘work’ and weren’t there to show their affection towards the old people living there.
I honestly don’t think anyone deserves to be in such a surrounding especially when they are old! Old people need affection, company and a lot of patience, things that are greatly lacking in a nursing home.
However, if an elderly requires a lot of medical attention such as constant monitoring due to their medical condition, then people have no choice but to send them to a nursing home where they can be under constant supervision. People in Pakistan sometimes don’t realize how life is in the West. Often times, everyone works so there is no one home to supervise the aging parents in case they need constant monitoring. In such circumstances, they have no choice but to have them live in a nursing home. I know of a family where their mother suffers from amnesia and would often wander outside and become violent with the neighbors. Everyone in their family works so they had to reluctantly put their mother in a nursing home so that she is safe and doesn’t hurt herself or others around her. Everyone has a different story but generally nursing homes are a big :nono:
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It all boils down to your social and cultural tendencies. Western folks are accustomed to independence right from the start. They make their kids work as soon as they are legally able to. They make their kids pay bills etc. They kick out their kids as soon as they are 18. In case their kids live with them after that, they are made to pay rent etc. Under these circumstances, they dont expect their kids to look after them once they are old and dependent. Its all fine and well if your social setup has you doing this right from the start. Try selling this to desi families. We (most of us anyway) tend to live together. We dont frown at children living with their parents even at age 30 or 40. Our society thrives on the joint family system. Yes, there are exceptions, but thats what they are...exceptions.
One can make the argument that life at an Old home would better for them, but without any moral support, something which our elders thrive on, how can we expect them to ever be at ease with such a life?
Its not about right or wrong. Its simply about societal differences. Its still not acceptable in desi societies, and for valid reasons too.
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Old homes are probably the best. They take good care of you and even wipe your butt and feed you.
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Senior in these cheesy old homes normally are as happy as bird in golden cage...
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If you are refering to the retirment communities then it is not the case. Retired singles or couples are very happy living in such communities. They usually sell their homes and buy a condo in these communities so they can live hassel free.
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Nursing homes are horrendous. Death's waiting room. Don't subject your loved ones to that, people.
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I will hire me a couple of Russian nurses when I am old.
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It's evident that some of you lack basic comprehension skills.
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^ Could you elaborate that?
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I will hire me a couple of Russian nurses when I am old.
QFT. Also following same foot steps !
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To all the people who are talking about old homes and nursing homes (not the retirement communities) these are the last place you would wanna go.If you are sick or you need assistance old or nursing homes can do that but they don't provide moral support.I am not talking in air one my GORI friend not even desi was very upset because her mom was in nursing home and she had all the luxuries everything there, nurses taking care of her, it was really nice nursing home but all she told her daughter please put me in a place where I can have warm and welcome feelings and have a homely atmosphere.She changed three nursing homes but at the end they found a lady who had only two three rooms and it was kind of homely feelings because she was a nurse and she used to deal every old lady individually.
What I hope that when I get old I don't need help or I can be enough healthy to take care of myself.And I can own a very decent condo in retirement community where my grandchildren can come and have fun.And I wish that me and my husband can die with great health so we cannot be burden for our children.
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If you are refering to the retirment communities then it is not the case. Retired singles or couples are very happy living in such communities. They usually sell their homes and buy a condo in these communities so they can live hassel free.
I can agree with that.
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Disturbing article in today’s paper
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^ this place should be closed permanently. if same thing happens at a day care they get sued in no time. may be these poor fellows hav no family at their back to complain or sue the home care takers.