Please help me understand what’s wrong with the way I feel. Why don’t you men see any problems with how you treat desi female children & women? Why is it not an issue?
This is only one of the many examples:
By kids you mean male children? Yes, desi parents don’t kick them out but as soon as their daughters turn 18 they start thinking about getting her married. How is this fair?
In my husband’s case and in my family in general, I don’t know a single parent that paid for their kids’ tuition yet expect them to take care of the entire family when they are adults.
There’s so much wrong with what you are saying and you don’t even realize it! First, even if i agree with your statement about parents paying for their kids’ tuition and taking care of them until they get married, it still doesn’t make it right because most desi parents spend twice the money on their male children’s education than the female children. < This is actually something that I see ALL THE TIME!
If it weren’t for their selfish/cultural reasons, they wouldn’t wish for a BOY everytime a woman is pregnant. Can you really deny this? On the other hand, the same parents would start collecting Jehaz for the girl and by the time she is old enough they have enough dowry secured for her marriage.
See, I have spent way more time thinking and analyzing the very culture I come from. These inequalities are so heavily embedded in our society that people don’t think at all about what they are doing. A girl’s emotions are swept under the carpet but nobody wants to correct the problem!
It’s about time we change the way WE think!
