Re: What's wrong with desi men?!
Theorist - ** My parents spent more on my education then my brothers education. **
Just one example of how every family is different.
Mine did as well.. They sent me to private school much earlier than my brother but my mum says it was more to have me in a single-sex environment whilst they weren't so bothered about him mingling with girls.. My parents weren't as strict as most other desis I know but this attitude still grated on me..
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*The truth is a desi woman doesn't get to call her own shots until she is old and has turned into another evil Mother in law. *
So true yet everyone is staying blind to this..
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I had the same experience as inspiron and Deeba. I guess coz I am the eldest but I have four brothers and even though they have had just as good education as mine, my dad only paid for mine. As well as private school, he paid my uni tuition so I wouldn't have to take out a loan, he paid for my Master's when I wanted to do that. He never treated me any different from if I had been a boy, he always had me doing stuff with him.
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I actually wanted to make an agreement with my father where I would take a loan from him for my uni education and then pay him back when I graduated. My father was fine with it but it was my mother (who normally favours my brother and is entirely conservative in my views) who refused to allow this to happen - she said a daughter should be provided for in her family home whilst a son is okay to take out loans etc. We were like 'uhhh???' She never fails to astound me with her strange logic..
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I dont know what kind of desi ppl most of the GS knows but i must say that things in pak have changed to some extent if not alot. Alot of middle class families raise their daughters as sons who when start earning support their younger siblings. My family hails from a rural area my father is the only one in the older generation with a university degree but still the ratio of my female cousins enrolled in universities is greater than male cousins...... they dont want their daughters to be financially dependent on any one.
I graduated from a government university and alot of my peers were from rural areas, they all lived in private hostels and gave tutions to younger kids to pay university fee. and all of them are working in leading software houses of Pakistan and earning well now.
Things are changing , its not the same as its was some 20 years back.
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Nothing.
It's all figment of your imagination.
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Desi women are what's wrong with desi men. Now even a MIL's "evil" ways are blamed on men?
Couldn't have said it better than D6C did.
Re: What’s wrong with desi men?!
just …
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/44205695/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/#slice-2
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I said it first 
P.S…in words of the OP…that makes you…
NOT FUNNY
LIke at all…
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There are none so blind as those who won't see.
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Yes sadly this mentality is there but it isn't always so everywhere. Like somebody here said things are changing. I do agree to that. My parents spent alot on our education. Sent us to the best they could afford. Same goes for my grandparents too infact. I might not be able to comment on discrimination b/w brothers and sisters since I have no brother however I know for sure my dad nor my grandmother ever said anything to my mom for not giving them a son - infact we are just two daughters and Alhamdullilah my parents are pretty content and happy with that too.
Now coming to the 'desi' mentality of people where they treat their daughters/wives in a way inferior to their sons: the desi women/girls are at fault too. I have come across so many girls who have no interest in putting an effort in their education. They are more into socialising, gossiping, watching endless stupid soaps and reading crappy romantic novels. Since their Alevels/intermediate they begin idealising their husbands to be/boyfriends etc and just have silly romantic notions in their heads all the time. WHY would parents want to spend their money on such kids then who have no interest what so ever in acquiring a good education themselves.
And with the minimal exposure when these girls get married they are first subject to mockery and male domination since the beginning. They raise their own kids like that and then treat their future DILs the same way too. After all life is just like that shown in these dramas for them.
***'saas ko kaise qaboo kerna hai' 'shohar ko kaise mutthi mei laina hai' 'betyon ki aisi tarbyat kerni hai k woh susral ja ker agay se chuu tuk na ker sakein' :p
***It's sad but true. Men are obviously not very angelic too... they start this viscious circle and the women then carry it on proudly.
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Theorist -
My parents spent more on my education then my brothers education.
Just one example of how every family is different.
I know many more examples .
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you are right...m also livin in the same culture but Allhamdolillah i don't hve any problem :)
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I don't have any brothers so this surely doesn't apply to me but in my extended family, they do treat men like the are kings. I do agree that it's women's fault too but what i am saying is it had to start with someone and somewhere. Women are not nearly as educated or independent to think outside of their little world. This must be the result of men not allowing women a certain degree of freedom.
Things are changing and i am so glad they are. My question still remains - why can't men see many sacrifices a woman makes for her husband? On top of all this, she is treated like crap by his family and her MIL only adds to her troubled life. What's keeping him from realizing something is very wrong?
Is it just me?
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Is it just me?
Yeah....:D
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^ you are really not funny.. :p
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^ you are really not funny.. :p
I wasn't being funny....again...