young Pakistani girls (still in schools/colleges) and their obsession with shaadi?
Its one thing dreaming about a certain type of wedding but its kinda worrying when they have it all figured out - what kaam they want on their shaadi ka lehenga, what makeup artist they’re going to go to, what photographer they’re going to hire, what colour their valeema dress is going to be… seriously?!
And they haven’t even found a dulha yet, mind you!
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Dulha seems almost secondary on the list of Wedding preps for these bridezillas !
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I've planned out my suhaag raat.
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I've planned out my suhaag raat.
Hope that includes a dulhan!
Make sure you have a nice sandwitch included in your plan too. :D
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Hell yeah! Everyone here is talking about marriages, theirs and others! Desis have this weird obsession with marriage. Soon as they get older, they can't seem to think of any other thing.
I believe our culture is at fault here. Desi girl's, growing up are have it drilled into their minds that their life is all about their home, husband and kids. That marriage and settling down is their ultimate goal and all other things are just distractions.
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May be This is their only refuge from their dysfunctional family. :
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I believe our culture is at fault here. Desi girl's, growing up are have it drilled into their minds that their life is all about their home, husband and kids. That marriage and settling down is their ultimate goal and all other things are just distractions.
True!
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Well that's because they have no other accomplishments to look at. Planning a wedding is the highlight of their lives. The focus is on the wedding, forget the marriage. Look for examples in Lifestyle...where the dazzle and excitement in the Wedding section soon converts into the irritiatingly unrealistic expectations of married life in Life1.
[Why waste money on Geo. Please visit Wedding and Life1. The answer to your life's boredom :@:]
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Hell yeah! Everyone here is talking about marriages, theirs and others! Desis have this weird obsession with marriage. Soon as they get older, they can't seem to think of any other thing.
I believe our culture is at fault here. Desi girl's, growing up are have it drilled into their minds that their life is all about their home, husband and kids. That marriage and settling down is their ultimate goal and all other things are just distractions.
but surprisingly most of the desi girls don't even know how to cook, clean and sew! Seriously.
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Hareem, that's because they have maids [or husbands] :@:
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but surprisingly most of the desi girls don't even know how to cook, clean and sew! Seriously.
That's true for a lot of girls belonging to the high class, but not so for the others. I've seen a lot of household where the "training" of girls begins early. And that's something that really saddens me, raising girls for marriage like a man raises animals to sell next Eid...
AS an example, there's even an ad (of Coke I think) in which the mother is telling the girls things like "Listen yo your MIL", work "carefully in the kitchen" etc. And that tells what kind of society we live in. Basically where women are unpaid laborers, servants under the name of housewives.
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Hareem, that's because they have maids [or husbands] :@:
[waiting for an attack]
lol...I was actually including myself too in that coz my mom wanted me to concentrate on studies rather on household affairs and it wasn't a good idea i guess.
I'd disagree with Icesoul because taking interest in the household chores and having dreams about your future husband and kids are completely natural and normal for a girl, but dreaming about what barbiecue stated, is quite abnormal and I guess it's just a new trend and part of consumerism.
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oh.......the guy is gettting his asskicked all around becfause he is to handle all the 'provisions' in the house........job,money,time,MIL battles of the wife...............and nothing of that is considered any effort/
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That's true for a lot of girls belonging to the high class, but not so for the others. I've seen a lot of household where the "training" of girls begins early. And that's something that really saddens me, raising girls for marriage like a man raises animals to sell next Eid...
AS an example, there's even an ad (of Coke I think) in which the mother is telling the girls things like "Listen yo your MIL", work "carefully in the kitchen" etc. And that tells what kind of society we live in. Basically where women are unpaid laborers, servants under the name of housewives.
Yes, that is just extreme and jahalat to treat your sons and daughters differently.
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oh.......the guy is gettting his asskicked all around becfause he is to handle all the 'provisions' in the house........job,money,time,MIL battles of the wife...............and nothing of that is considered any effort/
Stand in front of a stove half the day in Lahore in summer and you will know what's more difficult. Be 100% dependent on someone for a while and you will know what's more difficult.
And for the record, I'm a guy :)
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I'd disagree with Icesoul because taking interest in the household chores and having dreams about your future husband and kids are completely natural and normal for a girl, but dreaming about what barbiecue stated, is quite abnormal and I guess it's just a new trend and part of consumerism.
Guys think about their future wives, kids and homes too. There's nothing unnatural about that, be it girls or boys. But I don't see many girls talking about future study plans or their jobs or what they would like to achieve in this world. The point I'm trying to make is that girls are taught from the beginning that settling down is everything and nothing else matters...
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Guys think about their future wives, kids and homes too. There's nothing unnatural about that, be it girls or boys. But I don't see many girls talking about future study plans or their jobs or what they would like to achieve in this world. The point I'm trying to make is that girls are taught from the beginning that settling down is everything and nothing else matters...
hmmmm it's sad.....I'm glad that the trend is changing and most people I know don't think like that anymore.
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hmmmm it's sad.....I'm glad that the trend is changing and most people I know don't think like that anymore.
Ya, things are slowly changing for the better. But I don't know if the same is true for the illiterate masses in Pakistan. I mean, we can all sit here and pretend we know Pakistan inside out, but fact is, we are just a group of blessed people, surrounded by blessed, well-off people. Our experiences are very restricted...
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itz of dairy milk 
i liked ur POV:k:
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I think its a good idea. I would get really irritated if mum was to force me to learn to cook and sew in the midst of my postgrad. Kudos to girls who can balance both studies and household “training” but I can’t. And I’m not worried. Learning to cook doesn’t take years. Besides, I can survive on fish & chips. 