What's with the hate?

[Niksik]

Re: What’s with the hate?

@diwana

I disagreed to the approach used to put down that woman saying she should be thankful to be free of walking around in Burka as if Burka acceptance is something one should accept as a gesture of kindness and ‘Burka unacceptance and intolerance’ should be considered as a norm.

Did you not get that sir from my earlier post?

Same goes with Husband beating.

This is by no means norm in Muslim families and certainly not prevalent in Muslim families compared to non-Muslim families.

There was no need to put down that woman on the basis of these statements.

Oh! Be thankful! Your husband does not beat you because you live in a country which has laws against husband beating wife and you can get law on your side if he did…**otherwise you would be beaten everyday woman! **

How does that sound?

Waisey if her husband did beat her in another country, chances are:

1. She wouldn’t have the guts to tell her family, or tell when when she’s been beaten up several times.
2. Her parents would take her through a guilt trip and have her go back to her husband who is jannat ka farishta even though he beats her up.
3. Even NGOs back home that were formed with great intentions don’t have too many resources or honest people working for them anymore. Not everyone goes to Edhi.
4. That is how she will live for the rest of her life.

Here, our masjid helps such women not only pay bills, but find work. Social workers get on such cases, be it a muslim or a non-muslim. Cases are followed up and followed through. I see real stories every day.

And oh, please don’t get me wrong. I am not one to think that muslim men are bad husbands or evil people. Not at all. All I’m saying is that if you get in a mess in a 3rd world country or a developing country, it’s hard to get any justice. Guess what, I’m blessed to be living here. Just like I’m in a position to help suffering women here, I hope some day I can make a difference back home as well. At least I got started and don’t just open threads based on other people’s experiences but my own.