I would contend that every parent expecting jahaiz are FOBS because most of our parents were born in Pakistan and not here … hence they are FOBS :smack:. And yes… obviously some parents don’t expect anything. As I have written many times … this is a matter that differs from family to family. My parents certainly dont expect it either. It is something that isn’t practiced in our family even in Pakistan and hasn’t been done for over a few generations now. But just because my parents and khandaan don’t practice this…doesn’t mean no one does… that would be naive of me to think that.
Me neither!!! But I have realized that it does exist. Mabey everyone in your Community does not let this fly. More power to you. Hopefully you will marry someone from your exact community and not end up with someone who is from “fecal matter elsewhere in the USA”. lol
One can help out all they want. That is not the issue. The issue is the expectation that lays with the Brides family to provide the “helping” no matter what in our culture and traditions.
Yea me neither. Seriously - no clue. So then I read about it and asked my mom and brought it up in conversation with other girlfriends of mine. And I learned.
Please refer to this thread —> http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/393566-how-much-jahaiz.html
My thread was more to do with the gifts that a brides family is expected to give to “celebrate” the shaadi. It’s stuff given to the guys family members (immediate and sometimes extended). Things like gold jewelery for the guys mom and sisters, expensive joras, suits and watches for the men, etc. Jahaiz is a tradition where a girls family is expected to provide stuff for the COUPLE’S use themselves.
So yea - two totally different things/issues…