Priceless 
PlayStation: I ain’t taking any help of any kind from my wife’s family.
1- Ek larki
2-ek choota suite case.
hmmmm
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^ and a few gold bars in the suite case? ;)
^ Its normally the mothers of men who demand the stuff... ironically, they themselves had been through the system at one point in time.
Not ironic... they went through that and they feel it's their turn to put someone else through the same thing. if they did it, what makes someone else so special so as NOT to do it.
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There is an opposite side of this story too. In NWFP area men have to buy their brides. The more mature and beautiful a girl is the more pricey she is. Men are known to get old, very old trying to accumulate enough money to buy a bride. For this reason , you will see a 5 year old baby as a bride of a 50 , 60 years old man in that area.
Due to that tradition men and girls suffer in that area. Pakistani culture is infested with all kinds of ills and evils when it comes to marriages and weddings.
Oh yes due to this ill tradition , men and their family treat the women they buy, like an inanimate object. Ont the other hand a family having 3 or 4 girls consider them very lucky because they , not the the girl get that money paid by the groom to buy his bride.
^ and a few gold bars in the suite case? ;)
naheen dude
I have my own pride. I wont/don't accept things from ppl.
Suite case larki ki nighties ky liey... ab samhjha karo... I can go buy woman's cloths u know...
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For me it's simple - if you believe that this things are not a part of Islam and it's cultural - then TAKE A STAND and stop doing it.
One of my best friend's saas said CLEARLY said "I am sorry but I cannot accept anything but I am against jahez and bari traditions." She followed the same model for her daughters.
I agree with Jaanwar.
For me it's simple - if you believe that this things are not a part of Islam and it's cultural - then TAKE A STAND and stop doing it.
One of my best friend's saas said CLEARLY said "I am sorry but I cannot accept anything but I am against jahez and bari traditions." She followed the same model for her daughters.
I agree with Jaanwar.
1-My older brother refused to take "jaheez" from his wife's family. They practically begged him.
Saying its an insult for us if we send our daughter empty handed. I mean what you do in that situatoion?
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You stand your ground. Tell them it's an insult for us if you DO give us stuff. Personal things are okay
I would make an exception for a horse :)
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alhamdulila ..my inlaws didnt ask for any jahez or cash :)
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My inlaws and my parents gave each other a check for $100,000. (it was great)
My inlaws and my parents gave each other a check for $100,000. (it was great)
who's check was bounced?
Thats the attitude I want to see. Im against the concept of Baree and Jehez. I will not participate in it and dont think of it as exciting or fun…like a lot of girls do.
My mother will not speak to anyone who demands Jehez and wont take Baree from anyone either.
I learned that giving furniture as part of the Jehez is a norm in Pakistan. Is this true? Why furniture? She has to bring her own bed to sleep on?
Someone made a good point in here…the 101 outfits, the ten gold sets, the photographer and videographer, etc are also a burden on the father! Its true and its all part of it.
My opinion on the matter is…buy it yourself. Show people you cannot be weighed or measured by how much gold you get and how many clothes you bring with you. Dikhavey ke chakkar mein hum doosri larkiyon ki zindagi kharab kardete hein. We set the bar so high, its hard for anyone else to follow suit and measure up. It takes one person at a time to make a change and we as girls have the power to set the standard in each family for future generations.
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when i was getting married i told my mom clearly that NO JAHEZ n u have to tell that to the guys parents if they are interested in jahez they will run away i forced my ammi to do so n my FIL said we dont need anything just your daughter n he kept his word .......but my ammi bought a bedroom set n i had to interfere again
There is an opposite side of this story too. In NWFP area men have to buy their brides. The more mature and beautiful a girl is the more pricey she is. Men are known to get old, very old trying to accumulate enough money to buy a bride. For this reason , you will see a 5 year old baby as a bride of a 50 , 60 years old man in that area. Due to that tradition men and girls suffer in that area. Pakistani culture is infested with all kinds of ills and evils when it comes to marriages and weddings.
Oh yes due to this ill tradition , men and their family treat the women they buy, like an inanimate object. Ont the other hand a family having 3 or 4 girls consider them very lucky because they , not the the girl get that money paid by the groom to buy his bride.
I've heard the same tradition is true for Saudis too. Is this true? If yes, then why do we blame Hindus for the nuisance of Jahez?
I learned that giving furniture as part of the Jehez is a norm in Pakistan. Is this true? Why furniture? She has to bring her own bed to sleep on?
Not just that - T.V, fridges, fans, deep freezers, cars - it like a home remodeling list for the inlaws.
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Someone made a good point in here...the 101 outfits, the ten gold sets, the photographer and videographer, etc are also a burden on the father! Its true and its all part of it.
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Weddings are so expensive already paying $75 a head and inviting the whole community. It's more than enough expenditures.
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My opinion on the matter is...buy it yourself. Show people you cannot be weighed or measured by how much gold you get and how many clothes you bring with you. Dikhavey ke chakkar mein hum doosri larkiyon ki zindagi kharab kardete hein. We set the bar so high, its hard for anyone else to follow suit and measure up. It takes one person at a time to make a change and we as girls have the power to set the standard in each family for future generations.
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PS - my opinion is don't buy it all. Seriously you won't even use or wear half of the stuff. Quality over Quanity.
My parents wasted so much money and time on my wedding and my sisters. I wished they would have spent that time and energy on themsleves and their own health.
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I think jahez shud be allowabale but in exceptional cirucmstances
like a man can marry 4 times so he needs more things from his wife so he had resoucres to merry again.
Girls only get married onne so why they need resoucres? everything they have thier daadies shud gives to the man. so he can continue his duty of marrying many girls and creating kids from every wife and expanding ummat..
and any girl should never ever point finger at man he has mani responsibilities aspecially if he has in 3-4 wives.
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do u guys really exist in the real world 
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I think jahez shud be allowabale but in exceptional cirucmstances like a man can marry 4 times so he needs more things from his wife so he had resoucres to merry again.
Girls only get married onne so why they need resoucres? everything they have thier daadies shud gives to the man. so he can continue his duty of marrying many girls and creating kids from every wife and expanding ummat..
and any girl should never ever point finger at man he has mani responsibilities aspecially if he has in 3-4 wives.
Nutwer, kiske multi ho jo itni ajeeb qism ki baatein karne ke liye alag se nick banana para?
Jehez should not be allowed, period.