My point is, some families that enjoy financial stability can provide a beautiful dowry without an issue. These families are NOT in a majority but because of them...the majority suffers because now...they have to give their daughters amazing Jehez.
How many people have the guts to walk into their inlaws homes without the bedroom set, furniture, cash, car and all that?
It's more than just lack of consideration for whether or not the girl's family is able to afford or not. It's a deep rooted societal ill. For example, you're born with your skin color. Now if it's tan or saanwla, you can't help it. There's little you can do to change it. The skin color does not determine your personality or whether you will make a good wife or bahu. BUT.......STILL........many parents want a "gori chitti bahu" for their sons.
See what I mean? Often times, parents believe that "Oh larki waalay hain. Jahez ka to in ko pata hi hai. Sadiyon se yeh riwaj chalta jaa raha hai. To zaroor kisi nai kisi tarha larki walay intizaam kar lain gay jahez ka. Aaakhir kuch to saving ki ho gi apni betiyon k liye." I've heard such mentality even from the middle to upper class families. Reha, deep-rooted beliefs often times transcend common sense and morality.
And I feel its more of a problem in the mother land than it is over here. In my opinion some families dont' go to the extreme of buying car or furniture. And many parents like to buy such things as a gift for their daughters. What the parents give her is non of her in-laws business. They have no right to **demand **that girl or her parents buy them them things like car, fridge, furniture, etc.