I always used to think Jahez was purely for the girl, like stuff for HER to take with her like clothes etc, not the in-laws 
And I thought it was because it was necessary in the past, where less girls were financially able enough to get stuff for themselves.. however, it’s hardly the case nowadays.
I don’t want any jahez/buree at my wedding in the future, let me just pray I find a guy who will be totally against these rasams and my mother (who is very particular about these rasams blah blah) will spare me the 
Also, before myself I hope my bro and future-bhabhi will take a stand against this stuff.. but I dunno, we’ve never discussed this kinda thing in our family so don’t know what he thinks.. might have to have a word with dear bhaiyya 