What wud u do IF....

Lifestyle Relationships
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trust me that was the best thing that happened to me, cuz that gave me a reason for not being hooked up with one of my cousins which my amma wanted me to do :D secondly i never had to go to those extended family events :D

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yaaaaaaaaah

Oh there we go then, we dont need to even bring up the topics with our hubbys then, We jus need this surgery, and were back to zero meter!!!
lool im laughing whilst im typing this!

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[note] Please stick to the topic . Thanks [/note]

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Someone on here was saying once that in her nikah contract she had to sign to confirm she was a virgin (her other half didn't have to tho lol how convenient)..

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^ i dont think thats meant in the literal sense, more like as in she has not been married before.

and if i was nt virgin before marriage then i would be open n honest n tell my future hubby. if he cnt handle it and decides to leave me over it then fine whatever

FC guard slapped a woman reporter in Nadra office
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use ketchup !

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there will be very few guys who will accept this in arranged marriage scenarios, and very very few will tell this beforehand to their hubbies if the were active sexually before the big day, very few would have been deceived by sleezbags owing to their week moments, and they may tell hubbies. But other majority of the pre marital lot do it with free will and many with multiple partners, now they are not the lot who will come clean before marriage. would they?

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okay honestly...if the girls don't tell the guy they're marrying...and she doesn't bleed, i really don't think the guy will question her after they consummate and she doesn't bleed,, as to "why didn't you bleed, your not a virgin." (unless he's a loser)
Remember you're so into your intimacy your wedding night (or whatever night after) that checking the sheets for blood will be the least bit of your concerns. If he does mention it, just be like, umm i dont know.

Oh and did I mention its more normal for virgin girls to NOT bleed than TO bleed?

however, unless you give the guy an STD...then your screwed! :(

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I remember she said she was horrified and pretty angry by it so I took it to mean it was literal..

Btw, in arranged marriages these days is it common for the guy to even ask if the girl is a virgin?

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It could be a little awkward in an arranged marriage situation. You are meeting the lady for the second or third time - mashallah ji this chai is very good, oh and by the way I am not a virgin, thought I'd let you know.

Its hard to admit, but one really should do that beforehand. Either it will get reconciled, or if it is such a huge issue for the lady, perhaps you shouldn't be together then.

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You know what really grind my teeth,

1- Guys who've slept around so many times, but what a girl who is a virgin.
2- Girls who act all shareef, say things like they dont date guys, don't go clubbing, don't wear sleeves, and they love doing household work and are so shareef etc etc but secretively their banging some guy they randomly met in the back seat of his car :S or a tacky motel! It's just nasty!

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Go with what feels right..
Some guys would not be able to deal with knowing their wife/future wife has even looked at another guy , forget sleeping with one..

Whereas others know it is part of western life (wrong as it is)

I know that if it was me, I wouldn't want to know that my husband had been with anyone before me

That's why it is better not to do the deed so then no opportunities to think of what to say, how to act and how to do it..