What would you have done?

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Re: What would you have done?

@Paheli00

I know my opinion won’t be well-liked or well-received…but here it goes anyway. Assuming the kid had clean clothes on and didn’t look like he was being starved…assuming this was a case of verbal/emotional abuse and him just getting slapped around… :hinna: … I would not have done anything.

After all…what’s the alternative? Foster care? Group home? How many of you are actually foster and/or adoptive parents? Are any of you willing to provide a child like that a safe, loving home? I often hear desis talk about adopting newborns from a Muslim country…yet no one ever wants a non-Muslim child who has been abused like this. MANY people are ok with making a phone call to CPS…but not willing to provide a home for a child like that. The CPS system/Social workers are overwhelmed with cases. They can’t even keep up with kids who’re being tortured, starved, sexually abused etc. It’s very easy to get Cops/CPS involved and assume that the kid will be safe. Yet we don’t think about what will happen after. Often kids end up in a worse situation AFTER CPS gets involved.

:hinna: Anyway…so yea…as much as I hate saying it…I would only call CPS in cases of severe abuse or where I felt a child’s life was in danger. But for a case of verbal abuse with slaps…personally I wouldnt’ have done anything.

P.S. For that kids sake, I hope he didn’t get even more of an actual beating IF the cops/CPS decided to send him back to his mom. I can easily see a mom like this blaming the entire incident on the boy and taking out her anger at you…out on him.

** And before anyone twists my words…I’m NOT condoning what the mother did. I do believe in corporal punishment but what she was doing crossed the line.

Yea, I agree, completely. That’s what I was thinking when I heard them in the restroom. “It’s not my place. I have no right.”
Sadly, it wasn’t just slapping around. She did punch him a couple times in his arm, and the arm she was squeezing had bruises up and down.

I am not for taking children away from their parents, at all. So in that sense, Yea, I’m glad I didn’t call CPS. The management of the store we were in actually called mall security who in turn called the cops.

My parents used to be foster parents. We’ve had children who were taken out of similar and far worse situations come to stay with us when I was younger. And children who were just orphans, as well.

I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer/ solution. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. And you have yours. If someone would hold that against you, that’s their fault.

I hope he’s ok. Because I have no relation to him, they wouldn’t share any information. I’d love to know he’s doing ok.
I’m sure if/ when he is released to his mom, they would be monitored to make sure he’s ok, right?