Yea, I agree, completely. That’s what I was thinking when I heard them in the restroom. “It’s not my place. I have no right.”
Sadly, it wasn’t just slapping around. She did punch him a couple times in his arm, and the arm she was squeezing had bruises up and down.
I am not for taking children away from their parents, at all. So in that sense, Yea, I’m glad I didn’t call CPS. The management of the store we were in actually called mall security who in turn called the cops.
My parents used to be foster parents. We’ve had children who were taken out of similar and far worse situations come to stay with us when I was younger. And children who were just orphans, as well.
I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer/ solution. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. And you have yours. If someone would hold that against you, that’s their fault.
I hope he’s ok. Because I have no relation to him, they wouldn’t share any information. I’d love to know he’s doing ok.
I’m sure if/ when he is released to his mom, they would be monitored to make sure he’s ok, right?
**What would you do if you were in a public environment, and you saw someone hitting their child?
**I'd do nothing, unless I really knew the person who was lashing out on his/her kid or I was in a position of authority. The reason being that hitting your kid is culturally acceptable over here.
**Are you pro or against hitting children? Yours or someone else, does it matter?
**I don't know yet. Not sure if I'll ever hit my kids, whenever I have them. Can't make any claims until I become a parent, however I hope I never hit them. I got whooped(improvised weapons were used) as a kid and turned out okay. This might be a reason I'm not so anti-corporal punishment.
Are there situations where children "deserve" to be hit? Are there any justifications for hitting a child who can't defend him/ her self?
What do you do when the older sibling is dishing it out to the younger one. The kid must know that his actions have consequences. So your gonna hit the little one, how about I give you a taste of your own medicine. Now you'd argue that this tells the kid that hitting others is okay and he might be using his fists cause you taught him it was okay by using corporal punishment in the past. But the kid doesn't need me to teach him that, he could easily learn that from the bully at school.
People aren't usually thinking what's right or wrong when their treating their kids to some good ole beating, they're just crazy mad at the time.
Anger management issues are at the root of the problem most of the times, especially when it comes to public beat downs. If it weren't for anger the mother would've acted rationally and waited till she got home.
I am glad that you intervened. If this was happening in public, who knows what was going on at home? The mother had issues, and she needs help.
The kid will probably be eternally grateful that some caring adult intervened as opposed to looking the other way. He also learnt that that he can trust other adults and turn to them when he needs to, and that his mums behaviour was ultimately wrong. And it is essential for his safety that he knows that.
As for care; i know of some foster parents who provide loving homes for these kids, but that may not be the case with all homes. Im not so sure about care homes environment either!!
I remember a friend and former coworker had once said that she would report ANY parent that she saw hitting a child. And she had done so. I hadn't witnessed the event....but I think it can be cultural thing (to an extent) as the school was predominantly Asian and she's a Gori. Maybe what she saw was pretty bad, I dunno. I don't think it's always that easy to judge/determine a situation though. As a kid...I would get scolded/hit sometimes....but my parents were overall good, loving parents, MA. But yes, the above situation is really really really sad. Kids will whine and it can be annoying...but the mom needs to find better ways of dealing with it....what she did is an option, but it's not a healthy one for either party. The intervention wasn't to the level of social services, but hopefully she'll reflect over her actions after what happened.
Agreed.
I support what you did Miss Manno.
If she was merely scolding, slapped his hand a little bit or whatnot...could have been ignored. But slapping a kid in the face, swearing at him like that and the kid actually asking mom not to hurt him...disturbing. Those are signs of issues going on at home that need attention.
They can be frustrating, sometimes you wanna smack them and even I've given my niece a smack on her bottom. But not too hard...and definitely never humiliating.
Wow, that is absolutely crazy. I think what you did in that situation was totally reasonable. If I were you, I would have involved the cops/child aid services and get this crazy mother away from her son. That's child abuse and very unacceptable!
What would you do if you were in a public environment, and you saw someone hitting their child?
It depends on the situation. Some forms of hitting are very minor and is a disciplinary means of getting your child to behave in a certain way. But if the form of abuse was severe, I would step in and confront the mom just as you had done.
*Are you pro or against hitting children? Yours or someone else, does it matter? *
I'm against hitting the child to a point where he/she is hurt and distressed to a large degree. But I think occasional (relatively harmless) forms of hitting could be beneficial and the only way to make a child behave. So it depends.
Are there situations where children "deserve" to be hit? Are there any justifications for hitting a child who can't defend him/ her self?
Yes, but like I said, harmless light hitting as a form of letting them know they are behaving inappropriately. I don't think it's right for parents to abuse their kids to the point that they are helpless and really disturbed.
I am
A parent, no I would never ever hit/bully/abuse/degrade my child like that in private or public. Children are humans , people with feelings how dare someone treat a child like that, just because they gave birth to them . You did the right thing.
You may not have called CPS…but with the cops involved, I would be shocked if the cops didn’t report the suspected child abuse. Law requries certain type of professionals to report them.
LOL…yes…you would hope and think that CPS would monitor these things right? Doesn’t always happen. Although it wasn’t the CPS…remember the Jaycee Dugard case? Parole officers visited the house…actually saw a pre-teen in a convicted pedaphile’s house…and didn’t do anything b/c they were told it was his niece! :hinna:
its between mother n so n .. who the hell are you or her or anyone else ? .. maybe her kid is a little brat .. how can a stranger really know what the situation is like .. how dare you type of women think you can call the authorities on her .. her son probably already bugged her and on top of that she has to deal with another pareshani .. get a life n mind ur own damn business
dude, he's a child!!! She is a bad mother if she considers her own son a pareshani!!
@ Manno, I would have done exactly what you did!!! I just hope that mother realizes what she's doing to the child. I mean if this is what she's doing in public I can't even imagine what goes on in their home. :( Poor poor kid.
MM - GOOD FOR YOU! I would have done the exact same thing if I saw it happen in that degree. I cannot stand for abuse to the point where I can't even watch it in movies. I saw a lady lightly spank one of her kids but that was it. But what this woman was doing was beyond disgusting. I've seen what physical and emotional abuse can do and while the kids may look clean, bathed, well-fed, what goes on behind closed doors is sometimes horrific and can leave deep, emotional scars and trauma for years afterwards.
the best way to punish kids is ground them - take their favourite toy/stuff/game away. Not hit or abuse thm. thts wht i always did with my siblings. the technique worked for me always.
As far as OP is concerned, bravo girl tht must just have created a scenario and not made tht women realise how shes been treating her son publicly. i m sure tht must nt have been the first instance nor last one for how she controls her 8-9 yr old naive and innocent kid. but still hats off for being tht bold and going out of the way to save tht soul. Poor kid </3
good that you took a step :k:
There is a certain limit parents should go for to bring up their child, but shouldn’t reach to what you just saw!! I feel sorry for the poor kid!!
Saeed: Well put. Thanks for including that something like this is somewhat culturally acceptable.
Ma Mooli: Thank you. I really hope that he doesn’t ever had to depend on anyone to protect or save him from a situation like this ever again.
Reha: Thank you. That is exactly when I felt like I had to step in. The poor thing was doing nothing, like a good child would, to protect him self against her. Nor was she giving him a chance to.
You’re absolutely right. Kids will be kids, they don’t know any better. And some sort of punishment needs to be in place, but that was just unnecessary.
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Exodus:** LOL!! Well thank you. I’ll have to keep my Super Manno cape dry cleaned and fresh at all times now.
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Qtc:** I agree with you. Thanks for sharing your points.
Because I have no relation to him, they wouldn’t share any information. I’d love to know he’s doing ok.
