Re: What Would You Do?
Ok but does the other friend know for a fact that the man’s wife conceived all 3 children w/o any medical intervention? In IVF, the sperm doesn’t have to come from the husband specifically. Idea might be shocking but its not unheard of. There are couples that will go to GREAT lengths to have children if one of them is unable to have one biologically. In addition to the desire to have children, in desi culture everyone also asks tons of questions if there are no children in a marriage. There are couples that think its better to have a child that partly biological (ie. at the least the child is biologically the wife’s) versus adopting a child that’s not related to the couple at all. And by having the wife pregnant, no one would question the child’s origin. However, if the wife herself doesn’t go through a pregnancy & a child is adopted, desis have a tendency to be insensitive/nosy with their comments…even towards the child. Again…not a common occurrence in desi culture, but it’s definitely possible.
If 1 friend is going to accuse this man’s wife of cheating and indirectly pointing fingers at his children…then he better be darn sure that the man himself is not already aware of his congenital condition & chose another route to have those children while keeping it a secret from everyone else. B/C if this is the case, confronting the man would cause him great embarrassment & may also have a very negative effect on the friendship.
If the friend that discovered that is a doctor or other medical professional, then he needs to also consider the legal/ethical implications of this b/c you wrote that the test was done for something else…the businessman never consented to the test for purposes of searching/finding info. about this condition. I assume this is not a life threatening condition & there is not medical necessity to share it. What if the friend had seen the same information on the test report of a random patient? Would he still consider sharing that information that another random man who is not his friend?
Bottom line: We know that the 3 children is not biologically related to the man. But so far there is no actual proof that the man himself is NOT aware of that fact.