Re: what would you do?
Please refer to my above post. The issue is not how his parents are right now or were in the past…the issue is the FUTURE. As I mentioned before, both my parents and my SO’s parents have become religious as they get older. Your BF has not way of knowing 100% sure that years from now his parents will not become religious and start attending temple etc. What you and him need to discuss and come to agreement is that IF his parents do become religious and want to get their “hindu” grandchild involved in religious activities…what will your BF do at that time.
BTW, since his parents do have pictures (or statues) of their Hindu gods in their house…when your kids ask you or your BF WHY the grandparents have the hindu gods in their house and you don’t…how will you explain it to them? What answer will you(and your BF) give to the kids that doesn’t reflect negatively on the Hindu grandparents and their beliefs?
Again…I’m trying to get you(and your BF) to start thinking about the future and the questions from the children you WILL have to answer if you go the route suggested by your BF (ie. tell his parents the kids are Hindu but in reality raising them as Muslims).