Im a 27 year old Muslim girl, who has fallen in love with a boy whos not Muslim. I’ve told my parents about him, and my mom said that if hes REALLY want i want, she thinks she can convince my dad. The thing is, he converted to Islam when he was 14, and now hes 29, hes like im my parents only son and want to be nothing so my Hindu parents don’t hate me. So I don’t know how my mom will feel about him being “both”, even more so our future children being both Hindu and Muslim. Even more importantly I don’t know how my dad will feel.
So while all this is going on, i just got a rishtaa of a 30 yo Muslim Doctor, who’s great, and is really into me. But im just not that into him because I’m so in love with the Hindu boy. My parents love him though, my entire family wants me to marry this Muslim Doctor, but idk what to do.
u cant marry a non muslim and that by ALLAH command and if u do so u will be out of islamic circle ...and if he is muslim by heart as u said he converted then its okay but again u say ur kids will be hindu muslim type again a sinful act.
no love is bigger then ur religion.
he converted, practiced until he was about 24 and then stopped practicing and hasn't practiced since then. He claims that hes not any religion, but he cant say hes not a hindu and cant say hes not a muslim. but wants his future kids to be able to be called hindu cause his parents are hindu and he is half hindu as well.
all i can say is stay away from him and keep ur self on right track girl.your mature enough to know the difference of right and wrong
May Allah bless you .
^If you can figure out the religion thing, marry him. That's the biggest hurdle. It won't be easy though.
The question is; do you think you have what it takes to go through the work (and pain) required to make the religion thing work? Your parents are hindu (it seems?). Will you be able to merge the two religions in some spiritual way, while maintaining healthy respect for them both and teach your kids that?
You won't find the answer by thinking about it. Forget about him for 2 seconds and try to feel if you have the strength to deal with that. Do you feel the committment to do such a thing? You may be scared and it is alright to be scared. But are you willing to push through that fear and those difficulties?
Once you know your answer, ask the guy if he is willing to and has the energy to work at striking a balance.
If you consider yourself Muslim , then Islam does not allow Muslim lady to marry Mushriks. It is forbidden specifically in Quran. If you do not want to loose your faith then you will have to stop following your nafs and stay on the right path. There are no ifs and buts about it. On top of it he wants to raise kids as Hindu. Astaghfarullah.
whats a mushrik?
he doesnt want to raise the kids as hindus, but doesnt want to close the door to his parents who are hindu to teaching them their beliefs. the kids would be practicing islam, like i do. my parents are muslim btw, his parents are hindu.
i can push hard, and work hard for him, and make it work. and i believe that i can bring him back to islam eventually if i was his wife. and as his wife im willing to take on whatever hardships come our way. but my only hesitation is my parents. I do not want them to have to deal with any hardship on my behalf. i do not want them to at all feel terrible because of me.
also, the reason why im posting this here, is just to get other peoples ideas on it.
ive been so alone in thinking about this, i dont have many friends with whom i can discuss this, my mom is out of the country and i dont want to discuss this with her right now because shes under a bit of stress right now. so i wanted opinions of people who are not directly involved in this.
whats a mushrik?
he doesnt want to raise the kids as hindus, but doesnt want to close the door to his parents who are hindu to teaching them their beliefs. the kids would be practicing islam, like i do. my parents are muslim btw, his parents are hindu.
i can push hard, and work hard for him, and make it work. and i believe that i can bring him back to islam eventually if i was his wife. and as his wife im willing to take on whatever hardships come our way. but my only hesitation is my parents. I do not want them to have to deal with any hardship on my behalf. i do not want them to at all feel terrible because of me.
A mushrik is someone who associates partners with Allah and Hindu religion is all about this. You are putting too much faith in your abilities to convince him to be a Muslim again after wedding. Why can't your love turn him around before wedding. If he was a firm believer in Islam he would not loose his faith in the first place. If he loves you then why is he not willing to come back to Islam and why he would let his parents teach Hinduism to your kids. What rights they have over the religion of your kids ?
You are grown up women you have all the rights to live your life they way you want. You wanted opinion of others in these forums , that is why I am giving you my take in this matter.
Marrying a man having the same culture/religon as urs comes with so much issues , and u think marrying a man who doesnt know if hes hindu/muslim wud be easy?
and plz dont follow the bolly wood stars plzzz like sharukh khan putting the QURAN AND THE DEVI DEVTAS that is only shirk.
and they all will go to JAHANM.
and one thing more a muslim girl who marry non muslim as he is at the moment .Firstly ur marrige is not done secondly u know u will be wajib-ul-katal mean u can get killed for doing this .
Hmmm, honestly I think you should let this go. What makes you think you can convince him after marriage and turn him into a good Muslim? You shouldn't have to convince someone to be a Muslim. Either he believes in Islam or he doesn't... clearly he doesn't. He can't be 'both'. He is either Hindu, Muslim or neither. From your initial post it seems like he believes in neither religion. He's pretending to be half Hindu to appease his parents yet at the same time he wants to be half Muslim to please you. Your future children can't be both Hindu and Muslim. Islam and Hinduism are not compatible with one another. Personally I would never accept my children being raised as 'half' of another religion. I can't say how your dad will react but I guess the majority of Muslim Pakistani fathers would not accept or support this situation for marriage since the guy is not even a 'full' Muslim to start with let alone the future drama of kids being raised as 'half' Muslims and 'half' Hindus.
Think long and hard, before manking any decisions. It would help to have you two on the same page before marriage, especially if you are muslim. It is a difficult road ahead. Especially if ou have kids and you realize you WANT them to be muslim or he realizes he WANTS them to be hindu. Trust me, whatever is said today, is not guaranteed 5 years down the line when you may have kids and what not. Before making any decisions, see if you can get him to convert, give him knowledge...reasoning...etc...see what happens. I wouldn't recommend marrying a Hindu, if you are muslim, that's my opinion.
