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thank you to everyone for their ideas and advise
I appreciate it and I just wanted to let you know that I have done a lot of soul searching along with a lot or prayer.
I have spoken to the hubby and we have both agreed that we have made a lot of mistakes and we need to smarten up for the betterment of ourselves and our future.
So please pray that we may both be always very happy and loving towards one another.
As for the SIL, yes it was rude of me to return it but it was rude of her to give me her old outfit as a gift but I am over it. In the end, she will answer to Allah for her deeds so who am I to make an issue out of it.
And the MIL is being very sweet and very nice to me so I am just going with the flow and being very sweet and loving to everyone as well.
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I'm glad to hear that u both agree to smarten up and hope that both stick to your resolutions and pray for your happiness.
The difficult thing is STICKING to it, so please understand u may not find it easy, but dont give up!!!
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i read everyone's respinses but i know only a person going through this can understand . i dont see why soooo much importance is given to the husband , a wife has to do everything yet the husband doesnt. is it only the wife that gets married not the husband. all sacrifices are for the women and nothing for the man.
i dont believe in that
a marriage is a contract , that is wh we sign the nikahnama. it should be taken as serious as any contract and as any contract its a 50 - 50 partnership . that's why children are made up from both of the parents not just one. so why is preference given to the husband.
husbands should comprisie and sacrifice too.
wife parents are just as important as in laws
and whenppl start to understand this trust me the divorce rate will go down.
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Thanks for the thoughts Mizzrani
I agree with you 100% on a marriage being a contract where compromise and understanding is needed from both parties all the time.
I think sometimes a couple gets lost from the true meaning of a marriage and just needs to re-group and focus on themselves especially when other family members are putting their 2 cents into everything the couple wants to do.
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lostconfused dont think of urself as alone i am in the same situation hubby doesnt run to his mum she doesnt interfere bt its others and i cnt stand dt