A Muslim friend of mine wants her daughters to be in a cheer leading squad and trying hard to save some money so they can be in a school team and go on competing outside sporting events or what not.. her kids are 8 and 9.. the way they dress up, or put this loud makeup on is so not appropriate to me, plus their dance moves are kinda raunchy too like spanking and biting lips and stuff.. Although, they are kids, but if the base is not right, they might end up being in hooters (who knows). My friend thinks i need to chill and let the kids do what the want to do because that’s how they will gain confidence. She thinks I’m old fashioned and doesn’t relax a bit, but certainly that’s not the case here.. so my question to you is, am I being wrong here? should I just mind my own business and don’t try to advice her at all and pretend oh how cute that 9 years old looks in a itzy bitzy dress in a tranny makep.. what would you do in this situation without ruining a long friendship?
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yes..mind your own business....you told her once..she don't agree....let her girls be tramps....you did your part by telling her..
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They are your friends kids right? Your friend sure has a lot of patience to keep listening to that conservative monologue of yours. I know how hard it is. I sympathize with her.
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Also illustrates your general ignorance. You think just because they are cheerleader they will end up as hookers?
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^ err, no need to jump.
Ditzy wouldn't have said this to a stranger, she said it to her friend because haq banta hai. Fair play to her for discussing it with her friend in person instead of backbiting. Ditzy, your concern is valid and you did the right thing by discussing it with your friend. But, if your friend doesn't think its a big deal, just don't bother with it any more. You have made it clear that you don't like it, the rest is up to your friend. So stop worrying over it.
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so she's basically saving up money for her daughter's cheerleading career. interesting friends you got there : D
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Why are you still friends with her ?
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If you're friends wiht her, just avoid the topic...are you afraid that it's going to affect your kids?
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Probably the same thing you did.
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troll.
nice to see troll has now lost his broken english and speaks perfectly. maybe its time GS really did something about multinicks..
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Ke? 
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^ err, no need to jump.
Ditzy wouldn't have said this to a stranger, she said it to her friend because haq banta hai. Fair play to her for discussing it with her friend in person instead of backbiting. Ditzy, your concern is valid and you did the right thing by discussing it with your friend. But, if your friend doesn't think its a big deal, just don't bother with it any more. You have made it clear that you don't like it, the rest is up to your friend. So stop worrying over it.
Very well said.
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She is my childhood friend, we even go to mosque together sometimes, her husband and my husband both get along well and they are good friends.. I want the best for her kids, I want them to be proud of them selves when they grow old but I guess I should keep quiet here. Islamically it isn't right and that's why I was asking her to involve them with something better. But oh well!
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She is my childhood friend, we even go to mosque together sometimes, her husband and my husband both get along well and they are good friends.. I want the best for her kids, I want them to be proud of them selves when they grow old but I guess I should keep quiet here. Islamically it isn't right and that's why I was asking her to involve them with something better. But oh well!
You fulfilled your obligation by talking to her. Now it is up to her to take it or leave it. So move on.
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Also illustrates your general ignorance. You think just because they are cheerleader they will end up as hookers?
Yes! when your base is not right, your future has no potential either. Such girls are always self conscious, insecure and anorexic due to the pressure they had when they were kids.
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I think you better tell your husband to tell that to the father of the kids......that might work....if you feel guilty/compelled that is
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^ actually it was her husband's idea to begin with. So no luck there, so I better just sush up.
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yes....you can just write it somewhere.....have her put her signature on it.....and if something goes wrong (Godforbid)....you can show it to her and say "i told you so"..:D
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There is only so much you can do...you did your part by warning her. You are her friend and a good friend at that by worrying for her children.
I would stay out of it because parenting is a sensitive topic and people dont like being told how to bring up their children.
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Yes! when your base is not right, your future has no potential either. Such girls are always self conscious, insecure and anorexic due to the pressure they had when they were kids.
So all girls in the West are self conscious, insecure and anorexic? WOW!