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Drinking whole bottle of cough syrup helps in situations likes these. Give it a try. 
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noo its wrong.
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Case:
Girl loved someone for years but the guy kept telling her its not possible to be together for different reasons (religion the biggest one) still they did spend lots of time together talking and sharing interests... later, life goes on, girls gets married, guy gets married both have their own kids.... still the girl does think about him here and there since she loved him way too much.
10 years later shes gets an email from the guy, who just wants to see how she is doing... they talk once or twice... guy wants to keep in touch, talks about his current family and stuff and just wants to be in touch as friends. Girl cant stop thinking about him since they talked... she loves her husband and kids but she cant forget him either.... is it ok for them to keep in touch?
I would like to hear your views....
- confusedaboutinlaws
The girl should ask herself how she would want her husand to handle this situation. Would she want her husband to stay in touch with one of his ex-gfs if he still had feelings for the ex?
If this was me, I would not stay in touch with the man.
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** Girl loved someone for years but the guy kept telling her its not possible to be together for different reasons (religion the biggest one) still they did spend lots of time together talking and sharing interests... **
That was the biggest mistake they made, that kind of thing can only lead to heartache...
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is it ok for them to keep in touch?
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NO!!!!!!
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If the girl was over him then no it's not wrong to keep in touch. I believe in being friends.
Seems like there are still some unresolved feelings and then she is walking on a thin line there.
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She needs to be strong willed and shut that door.
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^Agree.. but easier said than done :(
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^Agree.. but easier said than done :(
It's VERY difficult but this woman needs to realize if keeping in touch with this ex is worth risking losing her marriage. I'm assuming that she has not told her husband about this ex or the fact that she's now in touch with him. So now she's keeping secrets from her husband...secrets that involve another man who is now in her life. That right there is the start of future issues which can potentially tear apart her family.
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^True..
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No.
What is the point? Since they're not going to be 'friends' due to feelings then what is the point of continuing this further when all it will result in is her husband being hurt badly?
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They should meet once or twice a week in a discreet out of town motel. I'm sure nothing would happen.
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Only once or Twice 
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Only once or Twice ***
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confusedaboutinlaws, if you want to return here in a few months to ask how to cope with a divorce, then by all means go ahead and continue to stay in touch.
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I would gather these things take some sort of planning, make sure the kids are occupied, respective spouses are busy, etc. So once or twice a week may even be a bit much.
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Agree with all of you! BUT why did he have to contact after all these years.... its just hard...
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They should meet once or twice a week in a discreet out of town motel. I'm sure nothing would happen.
Yeah, they should get together and play FIFA 11. Good halal bonding.
People are a lot more ****ed up than we realize. 'Concerns' like this one serve as a reminder. Thank you OP.
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Agree with all of you! BUT why did he have to contact after all these years.... its just hard...
Maybe he is also having a 'mid' life crisis. Two miserable people do not a good couple make. Put your life in order, woman.
Slims, you sound awfully experienced in matters of, er, rendezvous.
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Agree with all of you! BUT why did he have to contact after all these years.... its just hard...
Maybe he is going through a bit of a rough patch. Maybe something happened that reminded him of you (I'm assuming you're talking about yourself since you just said "It's just hard" ) and he got to thinking about that time in his life and how happy he was with you in his life. The thing is, if nothing too much happened between the two of you, there will always be this ideal image of how perfect things may have been, but you would never know because that isn't the path you two went down. Unfortunatley strong feelings like this just can't be eradicated from one's brain. You have to come to some sort of terms with them, so you don't jeaopordize what you have for some memory of an ideal life that was never to be.