What would you do if your wife got you arrested...

[nnabid]

Re: What would you do if your wife got you arrested…

@redvelvet

Nnabid, I had the divorce thought prior to even finishing reading the OP’s entire post. When I read that they have children, it slowed me down and I said that if he decides to give this marriage another chance, then his wife will have to change and he will have to let go if his grudge and open his heart to acknowledging her positive efforts. These things are no easy feats for both persons and will require both of them to have strong inner will power and sabar. You zeroed in on that one sentence of mine, but you didn’t consider the rest of my post it seems which also included suggestions for the couple should they choose to remain married. So, my post wasn’t entirely negative. And, yes, it does give some insight to her character/personality.

I disagree with you in that it was only a “stupid reaction.” This is a woman who was educated in the US. She must know that 911 is not an advice hotline. What she did was humiliating to her husband. Husband and wife are supposed to be a garment/libaas for each other…and a garment protects and conceals one’s shame…it doesn’t expose to the world.

I agree with everything you say, except that even if there were not kids involved, I still wouldn’t advocate divorce. Your second post where you ask questions about her track record of breaking his trust or making rash decisions which have bad consequences are a much better indicator of her moral character and personality as opposed to this one incident. Based on what OP is saying, I am assuming she is otherwise a good wife, but just acting out of emotions - therefore I wouldn’t announce divorced based on that! Seriously - I can’t stress how much divorce is not a game. I don’t know why it is the go-to option that is pulled out here.

In the parenting thread, someone has posted a topic on how to help children deal with divorce, and someone very aptly commented that there are so many advocators of divorce on GS, but as soon as they have to deal with the consequences, sub khamosh ho jatay hai. I don’t see even half the people on here who are shouting divorce giving advice on how to deal with the aftermath over there.