Re: What would you do if your wife got you arrested…
Nnabid, I had the divorce thought prior to even finishing reading the OP’s entire post. When I read that they have children, it slowed me down and I said that if he decides to give this marriage another chance, then his wife will have to change and he will have to let go if his grudge and open his heart to acknowledging her positive efforts. These things are no easy feats for both persons and will require both of them to have strong inner will power and sabar. You zeroed in on that one sentence of mine, but you didn’t consider the rest of my post it seems which also included suggestions for the couple should they choose to remain married. So, my post wasn’t entirely negative. And, yes, it does give some insight to her character/personality.
I disagree with you in that it was only a “stupid reaction.” This is a woman who was educated in the US. She must know that 911 is not an advice hotline. What she did was humiliating to her husband. Husband and wife are supposed to be a garment/libaas for each other…and a garment protects and conceals one’s shame…it doesn’t expose to the world. Imagine facing those people…be they strangers, neighbors, or family friends…who saw you get arrested and know about the whole sordid affair. When a woman is on the defensive, it’s hard for people to see the guy in a positive light even if the judicial system proves him innocent. For instance, if a man was falsely accused of rape and the judicial system finds him innocent, he will still have the daagh of rape attached to his character in the eyes of those who know him. They will have doubts about his character. They will think, “Pata nahi, I mean the court found him innocent, but rape is a big deal. It’s best to keep a polite distance from him.” Now the husband in this scenario has not raped his wife, but the label of “wife abuser” is no less damaging to one’s image even after being proven innocent.