Re: What would you do if your wife got you arrested…
You’re talking about completely different things. Physical abuse is completely different from what she did. OP claims she called the police for ‘advice’, and that she didn’t press charges. It was a dumb thing to do in the first place - I’m not saying she is right. But it’s clearly something she did out of a lack of knowledge of the consequences (i.e. that he’d go to jail). These kinds of things happen in arguments. You say/do stupid things, that you regret afterwards.
If a husband slapped a wife once out of anger, the wife has every right to be angry at the husband and take some form of action, but even then I wouldn’t advocate divorce, as long as the husband was truly sorry and was able to show he learned from his mistake. In the current case, the wife needs to take the same action.