Let’s say you just got married, and about a year later you get into a big argument and your spouse hits you hard. What would you do? Besides stand there in shock. Whom would you tell that he/she hit you?
Also, what would you do if it happened a second or third time? Thanks.
P.S. This is a hypothetical, so please no answers of “oh my spouse wouldnt do that.”
There is no way I would raise my hand at a woman. So, I really don’t know how I would react. I will probably offer the other cheek. 
I think I would hit him back. However, I would have to be angry to do this. Realistically, the first time round, I would be in shock. Maybe the second time round, again I would remain in shock. After that, I would be pissed off and slap him down if he hit me cause I guess I would be expecting it. From what I know, it tends to be a never ending cycle, meaning that if a guy hits a girl, chances are he will do it again and again and again. That's why I say I would expect him to hit me again. I would probably warn him beforehand that I will hit him if he raises his hand to me again in the future. I really hope I do hit him if he hits me. I will never allow myself to become victimized.
Leave him/her for a period of time till they cool off. Its dangerous being in that environment.
Follow up with an offer to go for couple counselling than cornering him/her that they are the only one that has the problem.
If they refuse, then contact the welfare worker and make them aware of whats happening. Next time it happens follow what the social worker suggests.
No one is worth being beat down so much. In Islam, one of the Prophet's had sworn to give his wife lashes because she had questioned God's divine plan but it never panned out since he was soft hearted and a refusal of God to beat women ever.
Man, my wife hits on me all the time and then laughs at my red face. sigh
I usually stand there in embarrassment, not in shock.
well.. i dont kno if this is healithy or not.. but we playfully hit each other... liek those who hits last competition type thing .. i dont see anythin wrong with it..
nn a fight IF he DARESSS hits me out of ghussa or dare PUSHESSS me.. (which he never will-if he knwos whats good for him)...
iM OUTTTT!!! no questions asked.. nuthin...
once it starts it never GETS better n im not stupid to fall for that "im sorry baby this is the last time crap!!!
an then MY abu is gonna take care of him.. lol...
I think very few women actually leave their husbands after the first time they are abused. They expect things to change and buy into the whole, "I'm sorry, I will never do it again" routine. They may actually believe things will get better if they go for counselling. The violence just continues though ... and then you have to get out. I'm all for self-defence lessons though.
Hit them back, throw stuff to slow him down, and run. Then practice tae bo at your parents house (or wherever) before you decide to give him another chance (because all women do). And you know, it really is a neverending cycle.
first time, shock, probably get upset (and he would probably be shocked at himself too...)
if it happened again, i'd be out of there fast...at least for a little while. it would take a lot for me to trust again.
In situations like these its very important for the other person to keep their cool and be level headed. Just because the other person is being immature and stupid doesn't mean you have to get down to his/her level. Rise above the situation and take control of it.
A situation usually gets to the point of physical abuse when both couple are being equally irrational, and not understanding what the other wants or has to say. If you keep your cool, make sensible arguments and come up with a compromise it is unlikely that the other person will get to the stage of violence.
Don't just run away and leave your spouse. You are husband and wife - try to make things work out between yourselves instead of getting everyone involved and embarassing yourselves.
It also depends on how serious the situation is. If it is more than one slap on the face or if it continues to happen then there is something seriously wrong with the relaitonship. I just can't understand how one can hit someone they love. Either get some counseling or report it to the law enforcement agencies in this case.
For those of you who think it only gets worse - it gets worse if you do what you said. If hitting back and leaving the spouse is your response then the situation will get worse. You have to make effort to communicate and make things work out.
well why did I 8 years of kickboxing and kung fu for? :o
They always come in handy :D
Mine would never, i mean never! ...but I'd be gone and outa there before he knew what hit me. Sorry, a guy who hits a woman has no right to a wife or children. Belongs in a dog kennel and good riddance.
my wife said she was discussing this topic with her friends and she said if her husband ever hits her she would just divorce him ..woah ..i better be careful lol...no but i wouldnt hit a woman ever anyway but i was surprised she feels so strong bout it
he hits u once.. hes gonna hit again...
yes in a marriage ure suppose to work it out but i believe that when its comes down to hittin .. its beyond repaiir,
its liek how can u even imagine hittin your spouse?
or maybe i m so dramatic about it is cuz my abu never raised his hand on me.. n even when i was in pakistan, u kno how teachers hit children in class.. my abu preinstructed the teachers to dare not even try to raise their hand at me.. its jus not acceptable... not for me.. no matter whattttt
If he hits me, it would really hurt the marriage. I mean, I know how badly that would hurt me (mentally). And being the short tempered person I am, I might even hit him back.
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Follow up with an offer to go for couple counselling than cornering him/her that they are the only one that has the problem.
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how about.... try talking about it amonst urselves first before seeking a stranger's help?
reciprocate... NO
good offices... NO
reconciliation...NO (I'd be so hurt.. mentally)
break all ties...Yes
however, jab banday par guzarti hai, to jab he pata chalta hai. Who knows what the circumstances would be...
Re: What would you do if your spouse hit you?
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Let's say you just got married, and about a year later you get into a big argument and your spouse hits you hard. What would you do? Besides stand there in shock. Whom would you tell that he/she hit you?
Also, what would you do if it happened a second or third time? Thanks.
P.S. This is a hypothetical, so please no answers of "oh my spouse wouldnt do that."
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no way yaar ! i m not so stupid . i m responsible for my actions . so i dont do the things which bring me to a state where a girl or even my wife may hit me.
even if she does so , i would lose my temper,i'll get out of control. i dont know wat would i do .
except for burrying her alive i may do anything imaginable.
I asked one of my Indian friends the other day what he would do if his wife hit him. He said he would hit her back. I was shocked to hear that from him. He said when a man is really angry he has the potential for great violence. sigh
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how about.... try talking about it amonst urselves first before seeking a stranger's help?
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Considering the matter has escalated to physical abuse, you think the spouse will the their significant other seriously? Personally, i've been through a considerable amount of cases involving domestic violence and the situation usually needs a third party to find resolution.