husband has a laptop that he doesn’t want anyone to touch, not even the wife he is very skeptical about anyone using it. he says he has some very important work related data saved on it and doesn’t want to loose it. even when wife’ laptop broke down and needed to do some work husband didn’t let her us it saying , her USB might infect his laptop. the wife had to go to considerable trouble to finish her work. now one day husband was in his home office with a friend and sub ordinate and just after they had left wife went in there, seeing the laptop turned on with the internet connected she told her husband she needs to check her email. while checking her email, she decided just to look at another page on the side. as she clicks on the address box to type the address of a porn site comes up! when she asks her husband who is standing there about it, he causally brushes the matter aside. later she confronts her husband… he goes mute, avoids talking about it, says its would be better for both of them if they didn’t talk about it. when she demands an explanation he says the subordinate might have opened the page when he left the room for a few minutes to get sumthing…! what do u guys think of this explanation?? husband is religious person, prays5 times, fasts and generally religious , but the explanation he gave…? only a fool would use their boss’s laptop to look at porn, in their boss’ home when he left the room to get sumthng and if this were the case shouldn’t the husband 's response would be to appear surprised and shocked when the site came up? instead of avoidance and going quite??? what do u guys think??? how should one handle the situation? how should the wife proceed? this was a single incident
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If its a single incident and no history of it she should trust her husband. If she doesn't and he avoids discussing it just let me be. How will fighting solve the situation?
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She’s upset because he watched a bit of porno? Damn, people must really be running out of serious marital arguments to have with each other 
If he can’t buck up the courage to admit he watches it and has to make lame excuses then they have bigger problems than porn.
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^ u think looking at porn is nothing?? Feel sorry for your wife...
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Did you even read my post? Where did I say it was okay? Please point it out for me.
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I don't think any husband would have the what u call ' courage' to proudly admit to his wife that he has been looking at porn if u don't have any advice, kindly at least do not derail the thread
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Its between the husband and wife. Why is th OP worried about it? whats the need to post it on the forum?(just a rhetorical comment - no offense)
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@ butt sb, the wife asked me to,she is a friend whats the need??? advice butt sb........ she wants advice as to what to do in such a situation
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If he is not going to admit to his wife then what on earth is the point of this thread? 
The wife should then simply move on.
I did have advice, you made an allegation that I said something stupid and then failed to back it up, and now came up with another gem and then go and accuse me of derailing.
o_O
Ask her to give her hubby the benefit of doubt, but also tell him that only way he would regain her confidence if he stop safeguarding his computer.
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I think its best to ignore u
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Her husband is a complete idiot. Not because he looks at porn (because a lot of guys do) but because he won't admit something he has clearly done after being caught red handed. The excuse he gave about his subordinate being the culprit is so weak that he must think really think his wife is utterly stupid. How should the wife proceed? She should basically tell him that she KNOWS he is lying to her. He needs to know that no matter what lame excuse he gives she still KNOWS he lied to her. Honestly, that's the most she can do. He is going to continue looking at it especially because he has not admitted to anything. And now, he will be even more vigilant about not letting anyone (especially her) near his computer again.
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Playboy bunnies are hard to resist
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Aww he wants to maintain his rreligioi image.
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hmm you went back to your husband?
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Ignore it since you are not entirely sure if he does watch it or not. But next time if you do see him and it does bother you then speak to him. Remember if you are going to approach him in a calm, respectful manner then you will be able to solve it quickly and easily. Hopefully.
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:hinna: If only you had supported/encouraged the act…we might have had a better idea of your gender, Blessed.
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I think the more worrying thing here is the 'friend' who letting you in on her little tiff with the husband. Unless of course it is you in reality but using a friend under pretense. Either way no biggie.
Secondly, he has clearly stated that his laptop should not be touched by anyone regardless of what for. Didn't your 'friend' go against his wishes considering its his laptop and not the 'friends'? I mean I don't allow anyone on my work laptop because yes I do have very important data but more importantly data which I need to legally keep secure.
Now, lastly, yes he probably does watch porn or what ever. BUT your friend aggressively asking him or putting him under pressure won't help what ever the outcome. Maybe, your friend should let him know exactly how she feels about this inappropriateness and it shouldn't happen again. As as much as you hate it there isn't any real proof he did access that site. Random pop ups do come up time to time and many times are porn related sites which of course isn't his fault.
Lastly, leave it be. Its happened and he knows the wife will go ape shiiiit if she does something like this... No need to ruin a normal relationship over this.
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so i think the problem is most guys watch porn...90% ...there's just no denying it. Its such a strong temptation for most men, they think of it as harmless and its so accessible. A temptation that they can fulfill in the comfort of their own home without anyone knowing. I know it bothers a lot of wives, but here's something that my mom says "everyone will go to their own grave". Sometimes us grls get so freaked out and heartbroken over our hubbies/boyfrnds watching porn...i think the best thing to do is leave him alone...he will deal with it when he faces his Allah. Until then, let him pretend like he's a religious maulvi.
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thanks for all your reply, wht i am hearing that basically she should not (cannot?) do anything,
for those who were concerend y my friend share it with me... Well women share problems with friends that they cannot share with anyone else....parents, siblings, cousins. And as i didnt know what to suggest i told her i would ask here.this is an anonymous forum and thats why people ask for advice on sensitive issues tht they cannot discuss with anyone,other people shouldnt object/question this IMHO.