if your almost 22 yr old daughter gave you a surprise nikah..well basically calls all the family over n sets up everything n surrrpprriiiiise shes getting married. Keeping in mind you like the guy alot and you are happy that ur daughter finally likes a guy and the guys parents r ok with it too..wat would u do
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Say you are happy and be proud of her good sense and tell everyone she got her common sense and intelligence from you.
What is the down side here??
Cograts, BTW, on the good fortune of your daughter
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lol i am the daughter cooking this up :D
apprently i have been giving my friends heart attacks so i was just wondering how parents would react to it
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oh and NO i am not planning it right now..thank God it hasnt come down to this yet but u know in case it does hehe
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hee hee
good luck then, wish you the best.....
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This girl I work with did that. The guy sent out invitations for an engagement party to everyone..saying he'll be proposing to her. Everyone thought it was a surprise for her. Turns out, the surprise was on them...when she walked down the aisle in her wedding gown.
It sounds exciting, but I'm not so sure how desi parents would take it. Our families usually like to take part in every little thing. I know my parents would be stunned. And I don't mean that in a positive way. ;-)
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lol i know..our parents and culture likes to complicate EVERYTHING
u know the more i talk about it the cooler the idea sounds..
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soch lo. dont know about you but my ammi seems to have been planning stuff for ages. why deprive her of that for kicks?
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What can someone possibly do in that situation where there are guests and people already there? If her parents are okay with it then why a surprise, parents raised you all these years to take part in your joys, the wedding planning et al. I agree with ravage, moms plan these things for years, I know mine has been and I wouldn't want to take that away from her, ever. My parents would be hurt, and even more so upset and angry.
Some things should just be left traditional.
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You got that right! Islamic marriage is supposed to be VERY simple.
I wish more people had this good sense.
Congratulations!
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The plan sound like alot of fun!! I remember while planning our wedding there were times when Kasim and I just wish we had eloped....but we ended up with the whole shing shang shabang for our wedding.. It was fun but it just didnt have that personal feel to it.. I think a small intimate ceremony like you are talking about would be Ideal... I just hope your family will agree and be willing to participate with you...
Good luck!!!
S
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Sehar wrote: "Some things should just be left traditional."
I know my parents have my best interest in mind and are looking out for me, but they REALLY don't have the same taste in men as I do (or I would never have married a Muslim Pakistani instead of a nice Irish Catholic boy).
Don't you feel as though because it is a lifelong committment, it should be a decision you should make? No matter how well intentioned they are, they are different from you. Do you have any say at all? Can you reject someone?
How is traditional more better? Do you think your parents will not support you if you find someone you love? You are the one that has to live with, eat with, and sleep with the person you marry, not your parents.
I'm just curious, please don't be upset, I just would like to understand. I was raised a different way. I introduced my husband(s) to my parents and they approved, if they didn't, I would have had second thoughts and probably never would have married, but it was my decision.
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minah_pa,
No, I didn't mind at all. In fact, I'm sorry if I wasn't clear in my initial reply. The traditional part had to do with the actual marriage/nikah ceremony, and not with how you find a guy. I have no problems with how people meet, my only concern was if her parents were okay with it, then why not have them take part in the planning of the wedding? Most parents, regardless of which culture, love/like to take part in the wedding planning of their children.
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Ok, now I understand, sorry about that.
My mother loved organizing everything. It was a relief to me, took some of the pressure off.
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tj
there is nothing cool about getting married this way.
If your parents like the guy and his parents like u why not do it
the right way. Get parents onvolved. Trust me.
It may sound cool now but down the road u may regret it. :)
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dies
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desi parents wait your whole life for this moment. you might think you are takin the burden off your parents, but i think this is part of their kushi to do as much as they can in prepartion for their childs big day.
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^ agree...
let ur parents spoil themselves (and u).. it is obviously ur special day.. but let ur parents have their fun. I wouldnt rob my parents of it... i just dont think its fair
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dayum
have a heart attack? :D
tj: abhee jamana itna maadrun nai hoa yaar
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Exactly what I wanted to say. But then again, how many parents do we have on this forum? 
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