wife is being mouthy, not listening to advice, wanting her own way, -
wife cries ALL the time…( every night)- OVER silly things like you didnt talk to me when u passed the bedroom to go the toilet …etc
and sometimes bigger things like i wana go home..( uk)
ok so we sussed its me, the wife, hes being veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyy patient…i understand his views, his reasons, plus he alaywas said he would live with his mum dad in pak, now cos of me, he says his plans will change and in 3 or 4 years we will go back so our daughter can have her education there…i should be pleased. right?
SERIOUSLY- I THINK hes great. however i still feel like he should od whatever i say…:
Re: what would a good husband do in these situations...
wife cries ALL the time...( every night)- OVER silly things like you didnt talk to me when u passed the bedroom to go the toilet....etc
I would seriously consider b*tch slapping her. Or throw a BF myself. Sorry..nothing on you nadz but if that is the sort of behaviour I had to put up with after marriage I'd be a lot less patient than that poor husband of yours.
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SERIOUSLY- I THINK hes great. however i still feel like he should od whatever i say...:
^ May be one of the reasons you feel that way is because he's the only one you're really closed to right now, so all your attention is focused on him. Also, sometimes, when we know that a person well we kinda expect/get used to them doing things for us/listening to us. I would just say and you have said yourself that he is a wonderful guy Mashallah, just don't take things for granted.
I would say try getting your self involved in something that will distract you form the MIL/ missing home feelings etc.
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I sympathize with you in that moving to Pakistan is a huge change and living with people who are not crazy about you doesn’t make it easier.
However, having seen a certain pattern of complaining and over-dramatic behavior (he does not need to talk to you before heading off to take a leak) in your threads/posts…I’m surprised that the “good” husband hasn’t lost in cool in a much bigger way.
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those could be your mood swings nad but the good thing is you realize this, you know you need to get over it and try to be as good as he is to you, to save your marital relationship. Its never too late and good to be flexible and more confident to deal the situations in a better manner than whining and moaning all the time. No one will really like this, not even you yourself, you know.
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Okay but seriously, everyone needs someone strong to talk too during the adjustment period. So it’s great that you can let loose your frustration on your hubby.
But, its also important to realize that your hubby is also dealing with an adjustment period, so he needs as much care and understanding as you. Be there for him as much as he is for your. Don’t ever let him feel that he’s all alone in this change and all the burden is on his shoulders.
So a ‘good husband’ would deal with his wife’s tantrums, and a good wife would make sure he doesn’t feel all alone taking care of a wife and a new baby.
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wife is being mouthy, not listening to advice, wanting her own way, -
wife cries ALL the time...( every night)- OVER silly things like you didnt talk to me when u passed the bedroom to go the toilet....etc
and sometimes bigger things like i wana go home..( uk)
ok so we sussed its me, the wife, hes being veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyy patient.....i understand his views, his reasons, plus he alaywas said he would live with his mum dad in pak, now cos of me, he says his plans will change and in 3 or 4 years we will go back so our daughter can have her education there...i should be pleased. right?
SERIOUSLY- I THINK hes great. however i still feel like he should od whatever i say...:
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I would seriously consider b*tch slapping her. Or throw a BF myself. Sorry..nothing on you nadz but if that is the sort of behaviour I had to put up with after marriage I'd be a lot less patient than that poor husband of yours.
i just hope your slap wont make her lose her life. besides i dont think you are planning to marry any man, otherwise in Islam you are only allowed to touch woman like the way you touch any flower.
its better to pray for a good-understanding companion before getting marrying, but still if you are rewarded with an evil witch the best thing is to divorce her rather than punishing her and also yourself.
Nadzzz, you are very difficult person to deal with. selfish and self-centered.
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So a "good" husband in this situation would not hurt his wife and simply divorce her in the most appropriate manner.
if you believe that your threshold of patience has exceeded its limit then yep its better to at least present civil on the day of judgment. otherwise i had this thread on "confrontation" for a reason. there are people in family-friend circle where they act exactly like nadz. so my personal experience is since i cant leave these people, i mastered the art of "ignoring" these people. i become deaf, when they confront me, or present me with a long list of problems they have with me.
and trust me shareef people cant stoop to their level of barbarism. whether you tie to bed or stove, they will become extreme lunatic and will haunt you until you dont do as what they say. they are that radio that stuck on one frequency, and which you cant talk back.
from my personal experince, its a waste of time, and energy if you try to explain them your situation.
