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^ b/c men are not left with anything to give either :D
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U mean what they want before they get married or after??? Coz it's always something different .....
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all i ever wanted was a caring man , with lil money and a big heart ,
but :hinna: when i cannot find one like this ,
how will find a rich guy with good looks 
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I still disagree with you, big time. When I picked my husband, the only thing my parents cared about was that he was a hafiz and his education- he's a biomedical engineer and now a med student. Sure, he's gonna be a doctor and probably make alot of money but he also told my parents that he might opt to become an Imam after he finishes residency. Now I have never seen an Imam make even a quarter of the amount as a doctor does. But did I or my parents care? No. And neither did anyone else in my family. Infact my family, his family and I have told him that we would support him with whichever career path he chooses. He is well brought up, belongs to a great family, and is respectful. And even if he chooses to stick with medicine, neither of us dream of a big house or flashy cars or diamonds or whatever. We plan to live in moderation so whether the income is 40k or 200k, it's going to be a simple life for us nevertheless. Infact, my mom is a doctor herself and despite of what she makes, I didn't grow up being spoiled or seeing my parents own big houses or cars or anything like that. So since my parents have brought me up in a modest way, I like that lifestyle rather than being a showoff with a doctor husband and his money. And about the looks, I didn't pick him cuz I thought he was goodlooking, it was simply because we were compatible and he had qualities which I always wanted in my hubby. Infact, we have been together in high school when I did not even KNOW what his career choices were and neither did my parents. Yet they approved of him only because he was such a good person.
It's wrong of you to generalize and think that every desi woman looks for only money when she is picking her husband. I know MANY and I repeat, MANY girls (and their parents for that matter) who have way better preferences than what the guy's bank balance is like. I am sure that there ARE girls who do want to live a luxurious life but then that's something you're gonna find in every country/culture. I am sure that alot of parents STILL in these days look for good families and a shareef background before checking how much their prospective son in law makes. Noone wants to send their daughters off to a poor khaandaan but fortunately, money is not a priority for many people.
yes i am one that is why i know.. we surely have lost our values dear/ wait till u get a rishta if u aren't married and see what ur parents decide on a guy with a good career of one who is known for his generosity and good deeds but hardly makes enough to meets ends.. looks also mean a lot in our culture.. it is a harsh fact i know .
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Noone wants to send their daughters off to a poor khaandaan but fortunately
I wish there were more and more families like yours..
the debate will go on and on at what percentage of ppl are modest and what are on the greedy side..
but u sorta sum up my point in your last line.
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the question shud not be what women want but rather it shud be ... what women dunt want ...
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I still disagree with you, big time. When I picked my husband, the only thing my parents cared about was that he was a hafiz and his education- he's a biomedical engineer and now a med student. Sure, he's gonna be a doctor and probably make alot of money but he also told my parents that he might opt to become an Imam after he finishes residency. Now I have never seen an Imam make even a quarter of the amount as a doctor does. But did I or my parents care? No. And neither did anyone else in my family. Infact my family, his family and I have told him that we would support him with whichever career path he chooses. He is well brought up, belongs to a great family, and is respectful. And even if he chooses to stick with medicine, neither of us dream of a big house or flashy cars or diamonds or whatever. We plan to live in moderation so whether the income is 40k or 200k, it's going to be a simple life for us nevertheless. Infact, my mom is a doctor herself and despite of what she makes, I didn't grow up being spoiled or seeing my parents own big houses or cars or anything like that. So since my parents have brought me up in a modest way, I like that lifestyle rather than being a showoff with a doctor husband and his money. And about the looks, I didn't pick him cuz I thought he was goodlooking, it was simply because we were compatible and he had qualities which I always wanted in my hubby. Infact, we have been together in high school when I did not even KNOW what his career choices were and neither did my parents. Yet they approved of him only because he was such a good person. It's wrong of you to generalize and think that every desi woman looks for only money when she is picking her husband. I know MANY and I repeat, MANY girls (and their parents for that matter) who have way better preferences than what the guy's bank balance is like. I am sure that there ARE girls who do want to live a luxurious life but then that's something you're gonna find in every country/culture. I am sure that alot of parents STILL in these days look for good families and a shareef background before checking how much their prospective son in law makes. Noone wants to send their daughters off to a poor khaandaan but fortunately, money is not a priority for many people.
i agree with you. a good percentage of desi girls dont just look for money. generally speaking its someone they atleast find attractive and who is basically a nice person. getting into specifics (e.g. how tall he should be and whether he should have hair or not....well that differs from woman to woman). many desi parents search for their interpretation of a 'shareef family' for their daughters.
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I am sure that there ARE girls who do want to live a luxurious life but then that's something you're gonna find in every country/culture.
I don't think that in and of itself is such a bad thing. Who wouldn't want a luxurious lifestyle?
But then it depends on how hard one is willing to work for it and how much of a pricetag that luxurious life will cost. To some, paying an arm and a leg for a studio in Manhattan, or eating $1 noodles for a month so they can buy designer clothes is perfectly acceptable and worth it. And to some, just being able to buy brand names instead of having to always shop at the 99 cent store for everything, is a "luxury." As long as they are willing to work hard for that luxury...everybody has different priorities. It's when that chase for the luxurious lifestyle turns immoral that its despicable. I.e., golddiggers.
Of course nobody wants to be financially struggling, so it's not wrong that parents want their daughters to marry men who are financially stable, if not well-off. In an arranged marriage, if there is a choice between a man with a good personality and no job, vs a man wtih a good personality **and **a well-paying job, the second will win, hands down. Looks are usually last of the criteria. Of course when it's a love marriage, more factors come into play, and it is not so simplified.
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are you guys serious? doctors and lawyers don't make any money. it's investment bankers and hedge fund managers who make serious money.
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Sara ^^ Yeah, that's true but I was pertaining to 'they want a luxurious lifestyle thats why they marry a rich guy whether he's a loafer or not just so they can have his money.' I am saying that not ALL desi girls are 'gold diggers' like that and when it comes to living a luxurious life and what not, if you have money, go ahead and do so. But to marry a guy solely because he's so loaded is totally wrong. Just like some girls like to view men living abroad as their path to greencard or whatever. But again, not every family is materialistic.
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Golddigger*
She take my money when I'm in need
Yeah she's a trifling friend indeed
Oh she's a gold digger way over town
That dig's on me
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in Need)
But she ain't messin' with no broke niggas
(She gives me money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
But she ain't messin' with no broke niggas
Get down girl go head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl go head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl go head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl gone head
*[Verse 1:]Cutie the bomb
Met her at a beauty salon
With a baby Louis Vuitton
Under her underarm
She said I can tell you ROC
I can tell by your charm
Far as girls you got a flock
I can tell by your charm and your arm
but I'm looking for the one
have you seen her?
My psychic told me she have an ass like Serena
Trina, Jennifer Lopez, four kids
An I gotta take all they bad ass to show-biz
OK get your kids but then they got their friends
I pulled up in the Benz, they all got up in
We all went to Den and then I had to pay
If you *ing with this girl then you better be payed
You know why
It take too much to touch her
From what I heard she got a baby by Busta
My best friend say she use to * with Usher
I don't care what none of you all say I still love her*[Chorus]
*[Verse 2:]
18 years, 18 years
She got one of your kids got you for 18 years
I know somebody paying child support for one of his kids
His baby mamma's car and crib is bigger than his
You will see him on TV any given Sunday
Win the Superbowl and drive off in a Hyundai
She was suppose to buy you shorty TYCO with your money
She went to the doctor got lypo with your money
She walking around looking like Michael with your money
Should of got that insured got GEICO for your money
If you ant no punk holla we want prenup
WE WANT PRENUP! Yeah
It's something that you need to have
'Cause when she leave yo ass she gone leave with half
18 years, 18 years
And on her 18th birthday he found out it wasn't his*[Chorus]
[Verse 3:]
Now I ain't saying you're a gold digger you got needs
You don't want your dude to smoke but he can't buy weed
You got out to eat and he cant pay you all can't leave
There's dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But why you all washing watch him
He gone make it into a Benz out of that Datson
He got that ambition baby look in his eyes
This week he mopping floors next week it's the fries
So, stick by his side
I know his dude's balling but yeah that's nice
And they gone keep calling and trying
But you stay right girl
But when you get on he leave your ass for a white girl
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lol
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:pagli:
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in the final analysis, girls will always be drawn to men with wealth, status and power like moths to a flame, pardon the cliche.
one can't expect girls to be attracted to men who are poor, of low status or with little or no power.
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yup
those are the 3 things i want in a husband
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Citibank just laid off a few thousand of these paper pushing donkeys who only know how to count. Doctors engineers atleast have some skillset. In words of seinfeld girls like folks who know the body and men just want the body. I know its off topic but just wanted to set the record straight. :)
are you guys serious? doctors and lawyers don't make any money. it's investment bankers and hedge fund managers who make serious money.
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Golddigger
well said yaar. i was thinking of the same song.
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^ I wasn’t saying what you think i said.
Just thot that was perfect for the occasion 
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haha… lol atleast sumbodies speakin da truth:eek:..