What turmoils do men get in life....

[nadz123]

because it seems women get them all, we get the responsibility of cleaning, cooking, ironing, all housework basically, then most of us have jobs too, as well as BECOMING PREGGGERS and having the baby,alot of pain…and stress…and then having the ( most of the time) sole duty of bringing up the kids and getting them ready, washed, waking up in the night etc etc u know the deal …while men, go to work…oh no how stressful, just going to work and GETTING PAID…

No matter how much your husband helps you, its not the same as a womans responsilbilty…

yday went to party, and as usual the men ate by themselves, while the women were stuck with all kids, crying, and screaming, and some wanted their dad, but the dads were like mamma kay paas jao…

i hate it that its a mans world, no matter what,.

so men, is life unfair for you..would u rather be a woman…i doubt it..

[mrSoft]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life....

No I wouldn't want to be a woman, no.

While I don't know about life being "fair", I do believe as men and woman have different responsibilities. It makes sense that the benefits both get (in a healthy relationship) are different too.

[X2]

because it seems women get them all, we get the responsibility of cleaning, cooking, ironing, all housework basically, then most of us have jobs too, as well as BECOMING PREGGGERS and having the baby,,alot of pain.....and stress....and then having the ( most of the time) sole duty of bringing up the kids and getting them ready, washed, waking up in the night etc etc u know the deal ....while men, go to work...oh no how stressful, just going to work and GETTING PAID.....

No matter how much your husband helps you, its not the same as a womans responsilbilty...

yday went to party, and as usual the men ate by themselves, while the women were stuck with all kids, crying, and screaming, and some wanted their dad, but the dads were like mamma kay paas jao....

i hate it that its a mans world, no matter what,.

so men, is life unfair for you..would u rather be a woman...i doubt it..

There is a sizable burden of societal expectations on men, just like there is on women, and much of it is conflicting..

men die sooner then women...so at the end of the day life is more unfair to men..
case closed

[CM]

Responsibilities:

1. Wife and kids
2. Parents
3. Siblings

While this may not seem to be a lot, but is the primary responsibility of any to take care of his parents, his wife and kids and any other siblings that need help. After this your cousins may come to in play.

This literally taking care of 3 to 7 extra people on top of yourself. Their medical, social, financial, economic etc issues over your entire life. Basically you are the one man in charge of all these people.

If you ladies want that responsibility by all means I will be happy to switch. I would take all you said Nad over having to deal with the nagging of my wife, the kids schooling and my parents medical responsibilities. Trying to balance of that, be fair and loving to each individual and of course dealing with the crap when they are unhappy. But bearing the burden regardless.

This also does not include societal pressure regarding jobs, excellence and progressive advancement.

[diwana]

because it seems women get them all, we get the responsibility of cleaning, cooking, ironing, all housework basically, then most of us have jobs too, as well as BECOMING PREGGGERS and having the baby,,alot of pain.....and stress....and then having the ( most of the time) sole duty of bringing up the kids and getting them ready, washed, waking up in the night etc etc u know the deal ....while men, go to work...oh no how stressful, just going to work and GETTING PAID.....

No matter how much your husband helps you, its not the same as a womans responsilbilty...

yday went to party, and as usual the men ate by themselves, while the women were stuck with all kids, crying, and screaming, and some wanted their dad, but the dads were like mamma kay paas jao....

i hate it that its a mans world, no matter what,.

so men, is life unfair for you..would u rather be a woman...i doubt it..

I see your point. It is already said life is not fair and it is man's world in general.

However, men do have other things to worry about. Like it is said above.

The party situation is on individual basis. I have seen men having little kids in their lap or holding them in men's area and women chit chatting in other section about matching shoes and where to buy stuff on sale or go for best facial! :D

Would you rather be a man?

[Gaia]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life....

yday went to party, and as usual the men ate by themselves, while the women were stuck with all kids, crying, and screaming, and some wanted their dad, but the dads were like mamma kay paas jao....

And thats why you say, " Wapis Pappa kay paas jao!!!"

[mrSoft]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life....

I feel sorry for your kids.

[JimmyKimble]

@nadz123

because it seems women get them all, we get the responsibility of
cleaning,
cooking,
ironing, all
housework basically,
stuck with all kids, crying,

if not that, why would we need women in our lives

To look decorative?? that too pakistani girls ??

[Sara516]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life…

Yup cooking biryani and cleaning the toilet (hopefullly not at the same time), what a troubled and horrible life. :k:

[JimmyKimble]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life....

and if biryani is not good.. more cleaning the toilet. :D

[Sara516]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life…

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Men have a time of the month too. Its called bills. (and if those bills come at differnet times, multiple times of the month. :D)

[sa-Nafooz]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life…

men have their responsibilities and women have theirs…and in todays world men also take care of the babies and clean the house and all(well ermm except cooking maybe..)…and if u(women) cant deal with yr actual responsibilities(taking care of the kids/home etc etc) then dnt get into employment.

[snazzy]

men die sooner then women...so at the end of the day life is more unfair to men.. case closed

AHAHA this is hilarious

Anyway, the more you let it bother you, the more it will bother you. Be a man. If you don't want to do something, don't nag about it. Just don't do it. Wake up when he wakes up. When he's chillin, you chill too.

And one more important bit of advice. Many women complain that their men dont contribute as much to the care of their kids. But sometimes, they are part of the cycle. When being taken care of by the father, the mother may keep criticizing things like hold the baby like this, or feed her like this, or clean him like that. Dad loses interest and the cycle goes on until the mother does everything and though she wants help, no1 else knows how. It's not dad's fault that only mom carries a bottle for the crying kid. Or that only mom knows how to calm a kid's fussing.

But really, we women do have it harder, no matter how much a man works, it's nothing compared to raising kids, working, and looking good and staying slender (esp with our naturally slower metabolism!).

[snazzy]

@sa-Nafooz

and if u(women) cant deal with yr actual responsibilities(taking care of the kids/home etc etc) then dnt get into employment.

that’s an unfair statement. why should women be the only ones to forgo their goals? If men are out of work, they feel worthless. Some women might feel the same way. Housework can be pretty menial and mind-numbing, some people need an outlet. I think the real issue is that men need to be more understanding of the changes going on in the world. Mothers and fathers should work together to raise the kids while supporting each other’s goals and dreams. As it should be- too many kids don’t get enough fatherly care. Dads aren’t only for playing ball and giving you money. THey’re for bath time and storytelling and dinner and clean up too. If not, dads are missing out on some of the most rewarding experiences about being a parent.

[firenze]

@CM

Responsibilities:

1. Wife and kids
2. Parents
3. Siblings

While this may not seem to be a lot, but is the primary responsibility of any to take care of his parents, his wife and kids and any other siblings that need help. After this your cousins may come to in play.

This literally taking care of 3 to 7 extra people on top of yourself. Their medical, social, financial, economic etc issues over your entire life. Basically you are the one man in charge of all these people.

If you ladies want that responsibility by all means I will be happy to switch. I would take all you said Nad over having to deal with the nagging of my wife, the kids schooling and my parents medical responsibilities. Trying to balance of that, be fair and loving to each individual and of course dealing with the crap when they are unhappy. But bearing the burden regardless.

This also does not include societal pressure regarding jobs, excellence and progressive advancement.

think before you speak, giving birth to a full fledge baby … forget about the baby .. “ik anda dey kar dekhao” … :nono:

[Gaia]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life…

^

By far the best statement I’ve read all day…

[Gina]

Women are as responsible as men are when it comes to taking care of their parents, siblings, children.. added bonus, his family too.

[augustsunshine]

Responsibilities:

1. Wife and kids
2. Parents
3. Siblings

While this may not seem to be a lot, but is the primary responsibility of any to take care of his parents, his wife and kids and any other siblings that need help. After this your cousins may come to in play.

This literally taking care of 3 to 7 extra people on top of yourself. Their medical, social, financial, economic etc issues over your entire life. Basically you are the one man in charge of all these people.

I don't know why people think taking care of parents is a guy's responsibility...where does it say in our religion that this duty only belongs to men?? Taking care of your parents is a child's responsibility regardless of gender! A daughter is just as responsible for her parents as a son! Our religion never discriminated between the two so why should we? Some women would love to take care of their parents and have them live with them but it's actually due to their uncooperative husbands that they are not able to do so. It's sad that some men want their wives to take such good care of their own parents but when it comes to their in-laws, they turn their backs.

Having said that, a REAL man has way more responsibilities as compared to a woman. He is the primary breadwinner and making sure you excel at work to provide for your family is very stressful. A real man provides for his family and makes sure his wife never has to bear that burden because she already has her share of responsibilities. It's only when men expect their wives to work, take care of the house and raise kids that a woman's life becomes much more difficult than a man's.

[SaadiaB]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life....

Look Nadz, don't be fooled by these parties, its all show shaaa, things are different at homes.

And you need the technique of controlling your man, in such a man that he is happily doing the chores, at least some of them. The whole responsiblity cannot lie on just one side, its needs to be divided.

And just working and bringing home money is not easy too, I have worked full time and now am currently at home and honestly I dont miss the work politics and the headaches of deadlines and work load. At least at home we can manage our work to our pleasure, well some of it atleast.

BTW doing things for your kids gives u joy that a job with money cannot.

so be a clever woman, engange ur husband in the work at home in such a way that he will do it wth pleasure and not as pressure.

[Mamaof3]

Re: What turmoils do men get in life....

Each partner in a marriage with kids has responsibilities which carry much stress. I'm happpy to be the stay home mom and wouldnt switch for all the tea in china!

If I happen to have a bad day, pms-ing or not feeling well then the house is messy and we may eat junk food. No big deal. If my husband has a bad day and screws up his work, he faces losing the source of income that puts food on the table and clothes on our backs.

I think that issues arise over who has things better and who has things worse when one or both partners take each other for granted or do not appreciate the efforts of the other.