Frankly, I don't as well. It seems most women, nowadays, have a urge to tell their young children about this phenomenon.
Well, I think there are quite a lot of women here who just said they're absolutely shocked and uncomfortable with their kids knowing about this 'phenomenon'. It seems that nowadays even if parents don't tell their kids, they'll somehow find out themselves - i.e. school!
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Kids know much more than they let on SU...you're right about that. And I'd rather that mine get simple, logical, correct and age-appropriate info from me BEFORE they hear the playground version of it all. It happened anyway lol! which started this whole thread! But it was actually a learning experience for me too. Because if I had answered his question to his satisfaction in the first place, he'd not have sought out the answer on the playground.
hahaha. You forgot to mention the Easter Bunny! Yes actually I DO allow a little magic into their childhoods as I had in mine. :)
Thats different IMHO from answering serious questions about how things work, what things are, why things happen. Again, I agree that they dont need all the details and all the info that my son got....but the truth can be simplified to age-appropriate degrees i think.
I don't blame you because you didn't give the detailed info to the kid, he got it from someone else.
My mom and dad used to tell us that babies cam from space and that Allah mian used to put em in rockets and send em here.......... the crazy part is that my siblings and I believed that for a very long time and we actually used to get in arguments in school about it telling everyone that it's actually true!
I cant stop laughing!!! now thats TOO CUTE!
Mamacita, can you contact the teacher(s) of your kids and ask them how they are discussing it? Make sure everyone’s on the same page?
“in gina”…we are a long way from the stork 
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The teachers do not get involved in playground talk between the kids. They also do not discuss sex or any of its results in the classroom at this age. All of this happened outside of classroom. When the kids get older, its known as "street smarts" but at this age, they call it "playground talk". And there is really no way to prevent it but there ARE ways to educate your children about topics of interest before they get the "street education" yeah? Because its GONNA happen, like it or not.
it is funny how kids want to learn all these things when they are young and then when the truth comes out they cant picture being born that way. i know my kids would prefer to have been bought at a store. i even know who would be liked to be bought where. oldest would love to have come from bestbuy or the apple store. middle one at a sporting store like academy and miss weasel would love be have come from hot topics. in fact i wouldnt mind coming from there either. or maybe a good shoe store.
The teachers do not get involved in playground talk between the kids. They also do not discuss sex or any of its results in the classroom at this age. All of this happened outside of classroom. When the kids get older, its known as "street smarts" but at this age, they call it "playground talk". And there is really no way to prevent it but there ARE ways to educate your children about topics of interest before they get the "street education" yeah? Because its GONNA happen, like it or not.
Not if you homeschool your kids its gonna happen.
it is funny how kids want to learn all these things when they are young and then when the truth comes out they cant picture being born that way. i know my kids would prefer to have been bought at a store. i even know who would be liked to be bought where. oldest would love to have come from bestbuy or the apple store. middle one at a sporting store like academy and miss weasel would love be have come from hot topics. in fact i wouldnt mind coming from there either. or maybe a good shoe store.
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very funny
by the way, I don't know what's the fuss about if kids find out on their own. I think it's all educational and it's a learning process.
I learned it very late and I would not want my kids to be deprived of "life" knowledge.
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very funny
by the way, I don't know what's the fuss about if kids find out on their own. I think it's all educational and it's a learning process.
I learned it very late and I would not want my kids to be deprived of "life" knowledge.
Yes, thats right. You teach your kids and help in their learning process without sheltering them to a degree that makes them very different from others. Even home-schooled kids have exposure to other kids (hopefully) and when kids get together, they talk (or they should). Both are very important to development and to becoming a well rounded person. IMHO.
Yes, thats right. You teach your kids and help in their learning process without sheltering them to a degree that makes them very different from others. Even home-schooled kids have exposure to other kids (hopefully) and when kids get together, they talk (or they should). Both are very important to development and to becoming a well rounded person. IMHO.
Ditto!!!
it is funny how kids want to learn all these things when they are young and then when the truth comes out they cant picture being born that way. i know my kids would prefer to have been bought at a store. i even know who would be liked to be bought where. oldest would love to have come from bestbuy or the apple store. middle one at a sporting store like academy and miss weasel would love be have come from hot topics. in fact i wouldnt mind coming from there either. or maybe a good shoe store.
Hahahaha.
When I was 7, I saw a program on lifetime or some other such channel, they showed a woman whose stomach had been cut open and they took a baby out. For the longest time I figured they came from a tummy, which isn't far from the truth actually..
Yes, thats right. You teach your kids and help in their learning process without sheltering them to a degree that makes them very different from others. Even home-schooled kids have exposure to other kids (hopefully) and when kids get together, they talk (or they should). Both are very important to development and to becoming a well rounded person. IMHO.
Home-schooled kids get together with those kids who are also home-schooled and have ethics and values in them.
I want my kids to be different from others (schooled kids) but similar to others (children of ethical parents) for their healthy sexuality and ethical social life.
-hahahahahahahahahaha
very funny
by the way, I don't know what's the fuss about if kids find out on their own. I think it's all educational and it's a learning process.
I learned it very late and I would not want my kids to be deprived of "life" knowledge.
"Kama Sutra" also comes under "life" knowledge, start teaching them that as well.
They don't need to have certain type of knowledge before certain type of age otherwise their innocence would be killed and they won't remain children. You'll have sexualy active children and this is what it talks about in "Brave New World".
Home-schooled kids get together with those kids who are also home-schooled and have ethics and values in them. I want my kids to be different from others (schooled kids) but similar to others (children of ethical parents) for their healthy sexuality and ethical social life.
You are seeming to imply here that the child who was given too much knowledge and then told the other kids about it...comes from an unethical home without values? I can't agree with that. Actually, the father is a religious leader in the community and the mom serves on the school board and PTA. They are very nice and very well respected and their kids are smart, polite and very well behaved. The kind of family that you'd be glad to have as a friend for your child....
Unless you inquire, you'll never know what other parents feelings are about what they want their kids to know. About reproduction, drugs, homosexuals and I could go on. Some parents want their little ones to think its a stork that bring babies, some want their kids to know an extremely simplified version of the truth and some give allllll the biological details.
So you get your kids together with only other home-schooled kids. Do they talk? Do you know how their parents would answer reproductive questions? Do those kids have young adults in their families who may pass on "too much" info which of course would/could get passed on to yours? Even home schooled kids can and do acquire "street knowledge" to one degree or another.
Sorry, I reallly dont think its preventable and I really cant agree that its a question of family ethics. The teens who "get in trouble" are typically those who get more "street knowledge" and "playground knowlegde" than proper knowledge from home. Like I said earlier, if I had answered my son's questions to his satisfaction, he would not have sought the answer from the playground. Thats the key here.
"Kama Sutra" also comes under "life" knowledge, start teaching them that as well. They don't need to have certain type of knowledge before certain type of age otherwise their innocence would be killed and they won't remain children. You'll have sexualy active children and this is what it talks about in "Brave New World".
woa - what's wrong with you? Kamasutra?
If your kids are at the age where they are curious about Kamasutra - then they will satisfy their needs NO MATTER WHAT.
Personally, I think if the child has come across the "WORD" and is curious - their question must be acknowledged and supplemented with a RESPONSIBLE answer.
That does not mean that - okay it's time to talk about Sex at an early age - it just mean that you can choose good vocabulary to make your kid understand without going into details.
You are jumping to conclusion that any parents who choose to educate their kids, in their own ways about reproduction/drug/and all the bad things - is unethical?
I think those parents are actual fulfilling their responsibility as an adult by answering the curious minds in a responsible manner - so the kids don't have to go out and get info from others/strangers - who might be a bad influence.
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You don’t have to worry about that any more, if you are in UK. Government will do it for you. :chai:
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So what's the conclusion?
If the kid get satisfactory answers from home his curiousity will come to an end and he won't get the street info?
I believe no matter how "properly" you teach them at home they still gonna go for street talk unless you make sure they don't mix with wrong sort of people and monitor their education and means of education.
mamaof3 you are probably decent and your kids are well behaved so why did you let him get him that info and why were you shocked?
But then you said he was going to get it anyway, so what's the big deal? Are you proud of him or are you ashamed of him?
And by the way did that au pair take your permission before telling your kid the info?
woa - what's wrong with you? Kamasutra?
If your kids are at the age where they are curious about Kamasutra - then they will satisfy their needs NO MATTER WHAT.
Personally, I think if the child has come across the "WORD" and is curious - their question must be acknowledged and supplemented with a RESPONSIBLE answer.
That does not mean that - okay it's time to talk about Sex at an early age - it just mean that you can choose good vocabulary to make your kid understand without going into details.
*You are jumping to conclusion that any parents who choose to educate their kids, in their own ways about reproduction/drug/and all the bad things - is unethical? *
I think those parents are actual fulfilling their responsibility as an adult by answering the curious minds in a responsible manner - so the kids don't have to go out and get info from others/strangers - who might be a bad influence.
Really? That also makes me unethical because I have also chosen how to educate my kids.
I told my daughter that when you want a baby you pray to Allah. Allah puts the baby in mommy's tummy and then you go to the hospital and the doctor takes it out.
That was the end of her questioning and my nervous breakdown
I think this is the best approach you took, my hubby was also told the same by his mother when he was young and it worked very well.