Hi all ! I m a girl of 18 years old.One year back i met a guy from india.He started loving me like crazy.we met on fbk.Now after one year,my sister came to know about me being in a relationship with an indian guy.we never met but he wanna get married to me .Right now m preparing for my MCAt.my sister asked me to stop talking to him and to focus on studies only. 
i miss him now when my sister is not around i started talking to him and he really don’t wanna loose me . I know m too young but m studying.and i want him too.For my family the issue is he is an indian and there is alot of cultural differences between us.i understand all this but he said he want me and we ll live outside india after my medical study and he is working hard just to get me . He is 23. He is doing a job too. Sometimes i feel if i leave him i will do too bad to him and i m v close to him Plzzz help me and suggest me what to do?
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Hello :)
I'm sure your sister has probably already told you this, but at 18, you really must focus on your studies, especially if you intend to work in the medical field. As far as getting married, I think thoughts of marriage are a bit premature at this point as you've only been speaking to each other on facebook and have not met or spent any time together and cannot realistically say whether your relationship would work out in the real world. There is a quite a difference between liking each other and getting on well on facebook and actually being married in real life.
You stated that the gentleman is doing a job. What does he do? Has he completed his studies?
(Wow, I'm beginning to sound like my mum lol.)
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You are right but he wanna meet me.I m working hard to make my family agree but i see no body will ever agree.i know m young but what if we meet nd i complete my studies.i don't wanna get married right now m too young for it.But leaving him i feel i ll be called as "dhokay baaz" :( he said i don't stop you from studying.he said he ll wait. He is a gym trainer and working in a gym and doing bussiness.
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My sister said stop talking to him.And u will be trapped in india. Sadly i have no way to go feeel so much helpless at times :(
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^It's good that you both are willing to wait for marriage. I had a question though, you said there are cultural differences and that your parents may disagree because he's Indian. Is he Indian muslim or from another religion?
Also, if he is interested in meeting you, I think it would be easier for him to visit you than vice versa. Is that an option?
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Yeah he is an indian muslim from a v religious family..yup i told him to come here n meet me but my sister said stop talking to him .leave him bla bla.i told him i ll try making my dad agree but i have no clue if he ll agree.my keeps on tauting me huh indian! :( she said will you go to india? I m always confused i love my mum dad alot :) nd i ll definately what they ll say. My sister says love is nothing and leave him he ll forget you .:/ i stopped talking to him for few days but i felt too bad as all our mutual frends started pointing out me and told me you ll loose him. I told him to work hard to make himself much strong so that my fam consider it. I now just pray to Allah for giving me something thats best for me :) need prayers ! U sound much elder than me ? :D
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^If he’s willing to wait for you to complete your studies and work something out, maybe could try talking to your family and explaining the situation? If all goes well, maybe he could visit later on and speak to them as well?
I recently turned 24. 
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Yeah he said he ll wait! In his family they get married at almost 23 24 and his family was also trying to force him . He said he can't marry anyone else.. And yeah my mum and sister know about it. My mum said he is indian.it is a matter of whole life. Leave him otherwise i ll hurt you in future . Make me feel like going somewhere with no body around me . It's good to get your help sister! :) thank you so much ! May Allah always bless you. His sister thinks i m not worth him . God knows who is worth him :) hehe
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^I hope it all works out for you and good luck with your studies! :)
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Aww thank you so much :)
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Leave him, its best suggestion for u at this age. U have a life ahead. lot more options would come , who will start dying for u but dnt get ur self too emotional , it will destroy u.
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Hmm! :) lets see i m leaving it on Allah... And i ll wait . Leave him? :( but how? It is not easy
I know you have heard it from your parents and sister..but i strongly suggest you listen to them. How can you be in love when you havent met him?. Your parents are right according to my opinion that...there are minor cultural differences between them and us...but that doesnt mean one shouldnt marry indian muslim fella. So! You are only 18...and seems like this is infatuation..not love. Down on the road in your life ya'll meet so many people...so get this emo mumbo jumbo out and focus in your career...and of course listen to your parents...
It will not be easy..but this will make you strong. And make you grow up to be young bright girl..and i am sincerely telling u as my young sis. Be strong…and talk to ur family and friends and not him please.
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Assalam u alaikum..
if you are leaving on Allah...then leave him..if he is made for you things will be made by the will of Allah n you will see it inshaAllah as its in mum knowledge as well...stop talking to him..few months later you will feel that you can go ahead without talking to him..just make a firm decision n follow ur sister advice obviously she is sincere
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Thankx alot and yes i consider their advice at any step of my life.Maybe i can leave him but the reason behind me getting emotional all the time is him.he keeps telling me don't go and it makes me feel so bad that i burst into tears and start feeling so helpless. :( i appreciate your comments .thankx alot :) alot of ppl said the same. And Allah knows better so m trying to take things much easier so that i can focus on my studies :)
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If i was you focus on ur studies. Your very young and you havent even met this person. Where are you based? The longer u stay attached the harder it will be for u to back off. What if u meet and u dnt even like each other or come across the same as u do on the net? Then what will u do?
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Thankx alot i feel i need to really focus on studies only and yeah i have started to stay more bussier now. I love my family. :) i know they are not wrong and most of the people gave me same suggestion ! I ll definately consider it
So m not supposed to meet him ?i m a pakistani girl :)
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A guy sitting in India when you are a pre-med giving your MCAT in the US...is never "in love" with you. He's trying to play you. MCAT tests your ability to problem solve, you know...