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I m giving MCAT in pakistan actually :) and i ll surely get admission in sha allah :) this is my dad 's dream to see me as a doctor .i wish life gets better soon and easier too..

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Wait...you're 18 yrs, living in Pakistan...fell "in love" with some random guy you met on Facebook who lives in India and you're trying to gain entrance to med schools in the US?

If all this is true, and you seriously are wanting to go to school in the US, life is going to get much, much harder before it gets easier. Get your head out of the clouds, concentrate on your studies and stop engaging in this la la land nonsense.

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Just please don't have any kinds of gifts or money wiring exchanges of any sort. Some woman was on Dr Phil who was cat-fished by someone sitting in Africa for 2 years and he stole all her money. I don't know, I would think this would be common knowledge but again, your in this as far as you are, so just saying be careful. You have way to much to lose, hopefully you come out of this.

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life is about balance...the sooner you learn that the more you'll be successful at whatever you do in life...its fine to talk to him (but oh lets say keep it to two-three hrs a day and thats PLENTY)..you are young so there's no rush to solidify things...the rest of the hours of the day both of you should be focused on school and respective careers...you both will be doing each other a favor...take some advice from ppl who've been there and done that...at 18 sure boys are alluring/charming but school's important in this day and age as well. good luck.

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Indian?....Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.....

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No offence I don’t understand how people fall for this when they’re 18. At that age most people do not have any idea how it is like too live alone, how to manage relationships let alone deciding to proceed with someone just based on FB. Him saying ‘we will live outside India’ sounds like George telling Lenny about their own farm (for those who were made to read mice and men in school :hehe:). He makes it sound like they’re handing Visas on a plate.

Think about this, you’re 18, just out of school, you haven’t even met him have no idea how he is and you’re already thinking about marriage and where he will live after marriage.

I know someone will say but ‘‘oh it worked for me when I was 18’’ sure it does for some but for the majority its no time to be making massive decisions.

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^ its quite simple really. Not sure what there is thats difficult to understand.
Emotional matters can be complicated.
Why? Because logic seldom plays a role. We are driven by our desires. Most people will do or have done something silly in the name of love, relationships, etc.

Can you honestly say youve never let your emotions get the better of you and had done something silly?

OP, I would listen to your relatives. I could go on about why this is not a good idea and why you should be careful, but it would just be repeating what everyone else has said. Bottom line; listen to your relatives.

I cant stress how important that is.

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Pretty much what I meant by my entire post telling the OP not to make rash decisions, which is also what her sister is telling her. I am unsure where you found my post to be lacking understanding. And yes we have all made silly decisions in the past based on emotion, which is what my entire post is about. So I don't understand your first two lines otherwise I agree with everything you've posted.

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My first two lines address your first sentence.

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Fair enough.

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no one watches the show on MTV abt long distance/online relationships? Dekha karo! :smack2:

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Hmm good to know everyone’s suggestions. :smile:

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And i wanna ask a question to all ? I really feel i can get out of it because leaving my family for a guy. I won't do it :( what if i tell him to wait? But he keeps calling me and i get distracted. I m trying to keep myself firm i didn't alk to him for last two days now. Today he called meso many times. I didn't receive and deleted at the end .

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You need to change your no. (I assume he's calling you on your mobile?). Do you honestly see a future with me? From your posts it seems evident that there's no future between the two, why would you want to tell him to wait?

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Yeah he is calling on my number and this is not only my number.My sister checks it regularly as well . And to be homest i really don't wanna make my life like hell which according my sister if brothers come to know they will make it hell.i m trying ignoring him :( and i was not so much i. Love with him instead the reason y i was staying with him was him :) i don't know what if it ll be a reason of regret for me in future. Somebody told meif you are leaving it on Allah just stop talking to him and make He surely will make things easier but deep inside my heart i respect him and the reason y sharing all this here i don't want my sister hurt him at all :( watever he is he was someone i really know and yeah how can i fall in love with anyone i don't know.He want to wait for me but i always told him to move on listening to the opinion of my siater and mother about this relationship.my mom said this is shaadi " not a gajar mooli ka khel" and this made me think so much and i thought what if i spoil my life and then later i have to blame myself for it :( i told him i can't talk to you but if u still wanna wait i do 't know the future circumstances :(

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love exist or not?

Sometimes i wonder if love really exist y m not dieing without talking to him ? Watever is the age of mine at least i have a heart if people say m too young :( but it makes me sad.sometimes we have to forget a few things for good.So i left him for good :) and for my family.I have no idea if m wrong or right but whatever it is i know i have to let time play its toll in this situation.But if i didn't love him y m i still sad ? Because i m missing him today :)...It even draws my attention from studies.i really wanna know if love really exist ? Or was that love between him and me!? Because i feel a bonding with him but not that feeling of dieing for him :/ what to do and how to move on ? In life? :( ...i i sometimes feel if i ll leave him i ll do wrong to him because i know he loves me :) but i feel helpless.being so young i can't do anything in this situation. So so alone.i have started to stay away from ppl as well

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You will get over it, it's normal. When your in love you will really know it.

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Hmm :) at least m happy with my life because i have parents and yeah lets see what life has planned for me now :) looking forward and happy :)

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She probably is giving the MCAT to get entrance to Pakistani medical schools, they have their own version of MCAT. You give it after intermediate, which is when you are about 18 years old, so she probably isn't thinking of going to USA now. that said, getting married to an Indian when you are a Pakistani living in Pakistan is hard. I am guessing this guy wants to go to Dubai etc at some point that's why he is talking of living outside India. Remember, for both sides, it's very hard to go visit the other side. For example if you want to go see your parents, your husband will have a hard time getting his visa and same for you if you want to visit India.

I would suggest, just wait, this is merely infatuation and probably will fizzle out with time. If it does not and you still want to marry him after you are done with med school, then think about it.

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Ok :( i m not talking to him now.Lets see i m just not thinking much about it now..