Re: What to do?
Seema, Peole can sit here and give their judgement towards you or your other half but they will never know the bigger picture. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, and when events occur theres always little factors to take into consideration which we do no know and only you wud be aware of.
From what ive read so far, i dont think it seems like a good idea for you to persue this guy. If he's disrespecting your parents, it shows he's got no repsect for you or your family. And i dont think any 'traditions' as someone above suggested allow people to refuse an invitation to a wedding coz this is one of the fardh's of an insaan to another. His family seem like they may interfere and if you think for one minute that your gona be pnishing him for his parents actions thats not true, coz tomorrow these factors DO HAVE AN AFFECT ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP. tomorrow when you go around to his mums and she doesnt treat you right, he may not wnat to hear your side or be understanding towards you. This can cause resentment.
8 Years is a hell of a lot of time but its nothing compared to the rest of your life.
Please please please think this situation out through and through. You cant base a huge marriage decision against the fact that he loves you so much, it could just be that he's attached to you. With time attachments fade and feelings change and life goes on, youre already sounding apprehensive and not just towards him but his parents too. And that really is not a good sign.
Whatever you decided Inshallah allah will make things easier for you but believe me theres always plenty fish in the sea and you will find someone who can treat you better.
Good luck
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