What to do when...

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…your colleagues and both your bosses hate you and keep trying to break you down at every step? And you depend on them to get your diploma?

I don’t mind if they hate me, I’m used to it now, to be hated for nothing. (to make a long story short, lies have been spread against me here and everyone hates me, so what, big deal, at least I know the truth, but that’s not really the issue now)

The problem is, they make up things just to see my reaction. And if I ever have an off day, they immediately jump upon any even small mistake I make, and use that to confirm idiotic nonsence about me. I don’t care what they think about me, but it’s not nice when it becomes huge and other people are being involved in it. Why I wonder.

I can’t quit, it was so hard to find a pharmacy for my learning period. If I dont finish the 770 hours in a real pharmacy, I don’t get my diploma. Thank God time flies and in a few months I will be freed from them insha Allah. I’m almost halfway my learning period with them now, alhamdulilah.

Is anybody in a similar situation? How do you handle such colleagues? I keep quiet and don’t fight them. I try to be as polite as possible. I keep telling myself Allah is watching and the angels are writing it down. But sometimes it really becomes hard, especially when they create problems in the work I am supposed to do.

I’m a slow learner anyway, I’m doing a homestudy and only now in the pharmacy I’m learning more. It’s different from the people who go to normal day school for pharamcy assistants, they learn everything at school and in the pharmacy they jsut have to learn how the company works. While people like me have to learn almost everything in the pharmacy since we only have the theory.

Perhaps this is the reason they’re doing this to me? I’m the first home study student they have from what my boss told me. But they knew what they were getting into. I don’t understand and of course there are no answers when I pose questions.

I can’t waite to get my diploma and find a nice pharmacy insha Allah with a better work atmosphere.

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hey..one of my cousins (pharma [email="major/working@ pharmacy"]major/working @ pharmacy) went through the same situation. her colleagues/supervisors were really bitchy to her. she had just started working at a pharmacy, but they expected her to know everything and didnt help her out at all...all the while whispering to each other about her.....she KNEW they were discussing her but kept quite until she got an offer from somewhere else. that day she quit the place after embarrasing the crap outta the mean ladies.
if u think u need them more than they need you....keep quiet. u'll eventually move on to better things. otherwise quit it since this can be really stressful.

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I'm actually thinking about start searching again for another pharmacy. I had two or three pharmacies I think where there was a chance to start the learning period in november or january.

If they will let my finish the learning period in their pharmacy, perhaps it would be a better choice. On the other hand, I have no guarantee they will pick me. :( No security for my diploma if I quit.

All this crap for that peace of paper. In a few decades, if nothing else happens to that paper, it will be digested by nature anyway.

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First and foremost, congratz on your 1k :biggthumb

I believe if you are offended by it or believe it to be an issue, confront it...

You can forexample, invite those people on a dinner etc ask'em what's bothernig them about you? Or just at that place...

Don't leave the place if it is bothering you, I think getting a diploma is more important than their bickering.

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Sadya…I gotta take some dinner now…because I gotta rise tomorrow early…I will answer ya in the morning…okay…

PS: I can make you a big girl… :k: :slight_smile:

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hmmmm! sounds related to my future field inshAllah but i mean comon now, ur a slow learner as u mentioned and then you know less then an avg college student but the pharmacy people are paying u the same as anyother smart kid around you

step in their shoe wont u xpect geting the best out of ur worker ? u shud know enough economincs now .. all u bragging abt is ur collegues are mean to you .. mind shedding light on the reasons ?

rite now im working at this electronics store and got this new guy to train .. sometimes he asks such weird questions i believe every body shud know and yes its heck of irritating too but i cant do nothing more then to show some fuzz and guess thats wat ur under going too.

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WTF?

who the hell is BRAGGING about people being mean to them? who the hell BRAGGS about such a thing?

you perv !!!leave it leave it…no one should be subject to the torture of viewing your FUZZ:crying:

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What is 1K? sorry, I don’t understand that one.

Confrontation isn’t possible when you never get serious replies to such questions. If people hate someone, they should ignore that person instead of trying to pick fights and ridicule the hated one. sheesh!

I will never invite that lot to dinner, and never will I take anything home made to serve them. They don’t deserve it and people like that only take the wrong meaning out of it.

Yes, that diploma is important, especially since I’m paying off that study with high bills each month and extra money now for upcoming exams. I keep thinking never mind, you still have the other diploma you can try to find a job with that again, but on the other hand, it would be such a pity when I’m so close.

You know, their bickering could get me bad marks and a bad resume for future jobs. It seems to be their aim to try to make me miserable, well, usually they don’t succeed, I laugh quietly at their pathetic efforts. But what troubles me is that they could seriously destroy any future possibilities of a job for me. It only seems to be their aim to bring me down one way or another…

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Well well, Mr Bombastic Sir, back again with some very nice comments indeed.

I don’t take any money from that pharmacy. I live from social security money each month and I’m not allowed to earn anything extra. So I work for free. In fact, I only take 30-40 minute breaks each day, while I am entitled to more. I work very hard and I take pride in my job. I love it.

And when I started, they knew I had only theory from homestudies, they knew I had no practical experience, I even told one of the bosses honestly during the second conversation while he was still deciding wether or not to pick me that I have to do things a few times before I really understand.

As for stupid questions, I’ve helped fellow students during my teens and if only you knew the questions they posed… But I never called them stupid and always explained things until they understood.

Stupid questions don’t excist, Mr Bombastic Sir, you yourself don’t know many things and if you ask those things other people might consider your questions stupid because they already know the logics and it has become second nature to them.

Besides, most of the things going on at my job are not even work related, most of the b*tching is directed to me personally and 80% of it has nothing to do with work at all.

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You don’t know 1k :eek: :eek:

I am congratulating you for completing 1,000 posts.

Anyway, back to topic…I can see that they hate you hate you. It can’t be resolved…yes you can leave and yes you can stay but it depends on you if you think that your diploma is not that far away then stay other wise I don’t think there is problem leaving the place.

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[quote=“Man with a Plan”]
You don’t know 1k :eek: :eek:

I am congratulating you for completing 1,000 posts.

QUOTE]

Oh that, sorry, slow learner, remember? :smiley:

Thanks, but err, where are all the balloons and party crackers and the soda drinks? :smooth:

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I honestly don’t know what to do! If only I knew for sure that I could find another pharmacy where I could continue. You know what, I think I’m going to try and see what happens. If I get accepted by another pharmacy, I’m quitting in this one. I’m going to be a nerd… waite, I already am one… :slight_smile:

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My party started in the Cafe’

Nobody came so I changed my gender

Now I am a dancing queen, young sweet, and only seventeen :silly:

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^^ not yet, you are only drag queen till tomorrow.

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1st Day : :fraudia:---------:silly:------------- :tweetie:

2nd Day: :tweetie:---------:silly:--------------:fraudia:

What the hell??

ok so no burp..
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Oh my God, seeing this before going to bed will only give me nightmares! :mudhosh:

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sadya
I don’t really know what to say about your situation
but I just hopes everything works out for ya. :flower1:

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Thank you, that is so sweet. :)

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^^ ur just speaking outa arse now. like i said as an employer .. everybody tends to get 100% out of their employe

and yes there are stupid questions but ofcorse a dog wont pick on another dog .. u get me ?

and as of starting they prolly thought u were some brown indian genious too lol .. but yes there are black sheeps everywhere :rotfl:

nobody can drag ur personal lyfe in workplace until u urself allow them too .. u shud have slimed it on their face for the first time they did it so there wudnt have no second time.

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Sadya,

Are you working mainly with females? I’m a Pharmacist too, and its a heavily female dominated profession. In hindsight, that causes a lot of problems with gossiping and bitching. It hasn’t happened to me but no surprise its common amongst the women, even the girls I work with complain to us guys about each other. Of course its funny from my point of view cos I get all the juicy goss but it isn’t nice if its directed at someone close to me.

If the situation is as bad as you say, with them literally conspiring against you, I think its best you search for another place and continue your training there. If OTOH you can survive a few months, then grin and bear it - winter is coming, the days are short, time flies by and will be over before you know it. In all honesty its very difficult to comment on a particular situation, but anywhere especially where you have to rely on collegues for training/learning purposes, its best not to answer back as it could only provoke them further. Diplomacy is usually the key to keeping them staright. Is there anyone you get along with there? Maybe they could give you the inside story why others have a problem with you. What is your manager/supervisor like? Are they fair to be approached about the problems?

Hope all works out. I’m sure it will :k: