From events of this past weekend, from yours truly:
Aimed at the men:
Take a shower
Wear presentable clothes
Try to NOT look like an uncle
Be accurate in your photos - if you wear glasses, then you wear glasses.
Try to wear a cologne?
Do not pass flatus in the girl’s car
Pay for the food. If anything, let her pay for the dessert.
Pay for the movie ticket. At least your own. If anything, at least your own.
Try to make interesting conversation.
Keep the sarcasm at a minimum, keep the negativity at a minimum.
Don’t do stupid things like visiting a girl in near freezing temps in a t-shirt cuz you’re too damn cheap to buy a jacket. She IS evaluating your decision making capacity.
From events of this past weekend, from yours truly:
Don't do stupid things like **visiting a girl in near freezing temps in a t-shirt **cuz you're too damn cheap to buy a jacket. She IS evaluating your decision making capacity.
sighz
Don't see how that's stupid. What might be extreme cold for you, might be normal comfortable temperature for him. He probably just doesn't feel like wearing something warm. If he's shivering, then yeah it's stupid.
Yo sup.. There are several things i do..now that I AM seriously looking into..marrying as well.
I dress up..not too over..but look very presentable.
-Cologne on..but not too much.
-I pay for girl's dinner and coffee. And yes..call me whateva..i am old fashioned in that sense.
(Number of times..some girls will fight ova paying..especially at Second cup..but i take a lead)
-I make sure to carry on with good conversation..and find her likes and dislikes.
-I walk a girl to her car..when parting our ways..
-I am brutally honest about what am I looking for in a girl..and give her opportunity to express same.
-Last but not least..i have great sense of humor when conversing..and no..i don't do no stupid jokes.
So far..i have gotten the attention of girls i go out..so it's all cool. Most important thing other than all that is to have fun.
So PCG..going out is a game. Ya gota go out with someone whom ya think..might be potential yo. Even..some crazy thing is turning ya off..why even bother.
Pcg - even if does the things he is supposed to and acts perfectly - will he always do that after marriage - He won't after marriage . Please let go of the ideal man or woman. They don't exist! problem is that the dating game is still foreign to us. Our religion does not permit it. The generations before us have not engaged in dating. Men do fart. Yes he will fart alot after marriage . I agree that both men and woman should make a good impression when they are meeting potential spouses . Some ppl can't pretend. after marrying the dude you could put cologne on him. it's best to keep your goals in mind. do you have parents, relatives or friends who could help you find somebody? Have u tried shadi. Com and rishta ladies....look for somebody with strong iman and comes from a decent family. Some things you can change or accommodate to
You're not into him, so move on. Save your energy for other things. Not every guy will be like him...and I've seen some pretty annoying desi girlfriends n wives as well.
So the guy you met doesn't take showers regularly and has a body odor. He also doesn't know how to wear presentable clothes. Incapable of making interesting conversation and ridiculously cheap. He also doesn't have common sense (who the heck doesn't check the weather when travelling to a different city?!). His sarcasm and negativity also gets on your nerves.
Isn't it a good thing that he showed you his true self right now? What if he did everything on the list just to impress you.....and once you sign the nikah papers, went back to his true self? Would you rather find out that a rishta potential has all these traits or find out that your husband lives like this?
So the guy you met doesn't take showers regularly and has a body odor. He also doesn't know how to wear presentable clothes. Incapable of making interesting conversation and ridiculously cheap. He also doesn't have common sense (who the heck doesn't check the weather when travelling to a different city?!). His sarcasm and negativity also gets on your nerves.
**Isn't it a good thing that he showed you his true self right now? What if he did everything on the list just to impress you.....and once you sign the nikah papers, went back to his true self? Would you rather find out that a rishta potential has all these traits or find out that your husband lives like this?
**Good! Its good to be yourself the way you are.In a way it was nice of him that he made no fake effort.
Itnay nakray hain tu phir sabr karo!!
From events of this past weekend, from yours truly:
Aimed at the men:
Take a shower
Wear presentable clothes
Try to NOT look like an uncle
Be accurate in your photos - if you wear glasses, then you wear glasses.
Try to wear a cologne?
Do not pass flatus in the girl's car
Pay for the food. If anything, let her pay for the dessert.
Pay for the movie ticket. At least your own. If anything, at least your own.
Try to make interesting conversation.
Keep the sarcasm at a minimum, keep the negativity at a minimum.
Don't do stupid things like visiting a girl in near freezing temps in a t-shirt cuz you're too damn cheap to buy a jacket. She IS evaluating your decision making capacity.
sighz
He let one go in your car??? And why were you even driving? Did he not have a car?
