What Should A Person Do In This Situation.
What should you do if the girl you liked who also liked u very much liked, agreed to marry you, but since u require more time for marriage, the relationship is bought down to friendship and has been this way for the last 3 months. She does not come online very much anymore the excuse being she is extremly indulged and busy in her work. Her parents have died so she is alone and independant, so has to work hard for her career. You come online everyday still, but you dont see her.
-you havnt been in contact with her for last 4 weeks. u miss her, but u understand shes extremly busy in her work. so dont mind.
-u text her on valentines day, u get no replies.
-2 weeks later, now march, u get a surprise email from her saying:
-'me getting married in april'....
dont get nothing else, no invitation, not even a hi or bye, how r u gesture.
-u r hurt and extremly shocked, but still reply respectfully saying: i need to speak to u
-u wait, u wait for a week -no reply.
-you finally cnt contain urself and resort to text her explaining u still extremly love her, to give u a chance before commiting with the stranger she met like 2 weeks ago.
You fear for the worst, but still hope maybe its not as bad as it sounds, it might be a joke or it isnt that yet serious yet, you can still get her back, you have been the most closest person to her.
-she replies:
dont contact me from now, my husband was checking my cell before, we r in nikah since a month, and now i have no space for u. and plz dont ruin my life, good bye for ever.
-u are absloutely shocked, hurt, worried, What Shes MARRIED, but she was your friend for 3 years, no way this can happen and so quick. u r even in denial.
- u call her immidietly she rejects ur call, u call again she rejects u, u call again she rejects again.
-then u text her conveying how shocked & hurt u r, asking why did she do this, u dont want to live anymore u want to kill urself
-all u get is one line back saying:
''dont do too many dramas ok''
-u feel absolutly rejected, heartbroken, in denial, not knowing what to do. Its so PAinful. WHY...weeks go by, the intensity of the hurt just cannot go.
-rather than killing urself, u plan to go to Gods house to umra to pray to get ur mind off her to, be alone and get some space. You beg to God to remove this unbearable heartache from u.
-u come back- but still cant forget her. It is now April
-Now September- u have no contact for 6 months, by the way in contrast last year this time you were chatting daily.
-u have waited,, to c if she calls- after all you did have a good and long frindship, she cant forget u atleast as a friend. and She did use to address u as her 'exceptional friend'.
you think its been enough time to test if she still cares,
-u message her saying: hey, forgot ur exceptioanl dost so quick? didnt even bother to check me dead or alive
u wait for a reply- will she reply, or she wont?
- 2 days after:
you do get a reply:
-msge kiya hai tho zinda hi ho
Susequent similar serious but sensible msges exchanges, on inquery on why she stopped contact, resulted in the Girl being left empty for words, and on the final msge of warning to call her house on continued ignoral;
he got final reply of
'do whatver u want''
after this no msges were sent by the girl.
Can Any One Advice The Person In this Case What To Do Now, and What to Assume of This Girl?
The Guy feels extremly Hurt, and cheated, The Girls doesnt even seems to remain friends anymore, and this insensitivity of hers, is what hurts most.
He feels she doesnt care a damn for him anymore and feels why should he and has feelins for revenage. He knows what her breaking-point is.
But he isnt fully sure of her exact mind-frame, did she really cheat him or hurt him, is she really ignoring him or is it just his misunderstanings? He cant come to a exact conclusion, of her attitude towards him. So He doesnt want to take a big action untill sure she deserves it.
All Kinds of Comments- Advice on Post Most Welcome
Thanksszz
LET IT GO!! youre losing your self respect (if you havent already) and theres nothing you'll get out of this!!! My God... youre fortunate to have gone for Umrah. Dont loose that direction.
Somebody keep a track please.
…I think I need to go downstairs and find something to eat.